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Cheating in a Nutshell: What Infidelity Does to The Victim by Wayne Mitchell, Tamara Mitchell
prairie_meg's review
3.0
“Cheating is an underhanded, treacherous act. That is it’s nature. Each of us seeks the one for us. That’s what cheating destroys, the idea that our partner chose us alone”
I think if I had read this before “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life” I would have enjoyed it a lot more. This book was alright. Pretty basic in its material but may be a good place to start for some. I also appreciate how it’s another book where the authors do not place blame on the victim, recognizing that the cheater has their own agency:
“The man you were involved with was not so miserable married he was getting a divorce, but he claimed he was ‘miserably married’ as an excuse to cheat. The logic simply doesn’t hold”
(In my STBXH case, it wasn’t that he was unhappy but rather, he felt he could be “happIER”. Same logic - or lack of it - still applies)
I did really appreciate the chapter on other books regarding infidelity and recovery. The authors did a great job breaking a number of popular books on the topic and what to be wary of if someone decides to pick one up. A few I had on my TBR have been removed, at least for now when I’m still at my most vulnerable.
I think if I had read this before “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life” I would have enjoyed it a lot more. This book was alright. Pretty basic in its material but may be a good place to start for some. I also appreciate how it’s another book where the authors do not place blame on the victim, recognizing that the cheater has their own agency:
“The man you were involved with was not so miserable married he was getting a divorce, but he claimed he was ‘miserably married’ as an excuse to cheat. The logic simply doesn’t hold”
(In my STBXH case, it wasn’t that he was unhappy but rather, he felt he could be “happIER”. Same logic - or lack of it - still applies)
I did really appreciate the chapter on other books regarding infidelity and recovery. The authors did a great job breaking a number of popular books on the topic and what to be wary of if someone decides to pick one up. A few I had on my TBR have been removed, at least for now when I’m still at my most vulnerable.
rclairel's review
challenging
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
This is an incredibly validating and wise book. If you are reading this review, you probably need this book. Buy it. And buy the book Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life, too. Read them both. And set yourself free. Frankly, everyone should read both, even if they have no experience with cheating. It's important for undoing the disgusting cultural narrative that encourages victims to stay.
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