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kylarcahalan's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Emotional abuse
Moderate: Domestic abuse, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, and Gaslighting
Minor: Homophobia
katofalltrades's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Homophobia, and Gaslighting
mamareadstuff's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Body shaming, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, and Gaslighting
hannahbanana98's review against another edition
3.75
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Violence, Vomit, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
leontyna's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, and Gaslighting
Moderate: Sexual content
Minor: Drug use
onamoonbeam's review against another edition
5.0
notable bits
- as a trope lover, the fact the memoir is formatted like this at all is already fantastic, not to mention. literally everything else
- the three deja vu chapters are marked in my book, and i flipped between them, reading their corresponding sentences in order in awe of oh. everything in this book is put together with intention, and this is just a small piece of it.
- the choose your own adventure part with the
(multiple!!) pages that say smth like 'you should not be on this page, there was no way to get to it with the choices provided. you wanted to get out/you can't get out, this already happened/were you looking for a way out' ARE SO GOOD i love when authors use their mediums to the fullest because in what other format could that exist? it reminded me of some pieces of interactive fiction, where choice being given and then taken away, or pointing out the illusion of choice, is more impactful than starting out with no choice to begin with. -
the use of footnotes in reference to folklore and foreshadowing is *chef's kiss* both opposite and adjacent to the princess bride to me. some of them, esp the one of 'mother killing her child' i gasped at -
pointing out that the language we use to describe abuse is so trite that horrible experiences seem banal, then pointing out a specific experience -
magical realism almost? of her experiences after the breakup, shrinking and drowning in tears and finding solace in animals -
"We deserve to have our wrongdoing represented as much as our heroism, because when we refuse wrongdoing as a possibility for a group of people, we refuse their humanity" AAAGH -
explicit separation of "you" and "i" in one chapter that continues for the rest of the book, works to 1. separate her experiences at the time of the relationship and at other points in her life 2. a marker of her growth 3. everything becomes deeply personal to the reader. you are running/dreaming/hiding. do you understand, now? -
"Part of the problem was, as a weird fat girl, you felt lucky." the elementary school me is pounding the floor of my heart, ie. when I read that I gripped the book a little tighter - HOUSE AND SPACE METAPHORS
something about this is peak english major to me, and i mean that as a compliment. guess i gotta go read her body and other parties now
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Grief, and Gaslighting
Minor: Infidelity, Sexual violence, and Suicidal thoughts
amandarosexox's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Domestic abuse
Moderate: Infidelity, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, and Gaslighting
fayemomodu's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Animal cruelty, Body shaming, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Gaslighting, and Sexual harassment
clovetra's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, and Violence
Moderate: Drug use, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, and Gaslighting
Minor: Pregnancy
rachaelcandoit's review against another edition
5.0
This memoir is also so incredibly important. As a queer person, I'm thankful that work like this exists and hope it can bring awareness to others.
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Gaslighting
Minor: Animal death