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chloehauenstein's review against another edition
4.75
Graphic: Pedophilia and Sexual assault
lolasherwin's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Pedophilia, Rape, and Sexual assault
bookshelvish's review against another edition
3.25
Moderate: Sexual assault
kelshef's review against another edition
3.0
The question I thought of most while listening was “Why?” I started listening because I was interested in reviews that were published when the book came out, so I had some understanding of the author’s process, but I still feel like there are unsatisfying gaps in my understanding of why this book was written, and why it was written in the way it was.
While fairly engrossing, the character’s stories are told from a distance. This distance, which i’d anticipate would be almost impossible to avoid, given that the author is not the women themselves, is dissonant with the extremely personal descriptions of sex, shame, body image, and relationships. Denied their own interiority by the author’s decisions about organization and narrative consistency, the characters came across as flat and devoid of consistent motivation.
I would anticipate that the author’s motivation in writing this is to give women the stories and understanding
that they’re frequently denied in literature and media written by men, to show that every woman has complexity and nuance to her experiences with sex and desire. However, I came away feeling that each woman’s story was sensationalized and denied nuance, by being forced into a disconnected narrative. Each story is heartbreaking, interesting, and mundane, but together, the reader is left again questioning what the purpose is to put them together in this way.
Many have noted the lack of racial and sexuality diversity in these stories. I can understand why the author, a white woman, would have had an easier time persuading other white women to give her as much of their stories and interior lives as these women did, and I appreciate the importance of diverse people having the ability to tell their own stories. However, I found the throwaway reference to a Black woman the author tried to work with for the book to be trite, with little consideration for why the woman would have decided not to let the author into her life.
I personally found this book alternately compelling and excruciating. There were several points where the writing felt like pointless explicit exploitation, and I almost gave up. But, by the end, I needed to know what happened. I have read a fair amount of creative non-fiction, so felt prepared for the narrative style, but ended up finding the writing to be unable to stand up to the gravity of the women’s stories. The decision to write these non-fiction stories like a novel fails to account for the fact that the characters are real people, whose stories won’t fit into a neat narrative box. When these narrative gaps or moments of dissonance happened, I believe that the book would have benefitted from some authorial intervention to explain more of the information-gathering and writing process.
Graphic: Eating disorder, Sexual assault, Sexual content, and Sexual violence
fatkidatheartreads's review against another edition
4.0
"Women shouldn't judge each others lives, if we haven't been through one another's fires."
My heart breaks for these women. I wish they would have gotten justice for what they went through. They were brave to have shared this.
This is heavy on trigger warnings so please check those out.
And teachers who should be safe spaces for their students but are instead pedophilic maniacs deserve a fate worse than death!
I am humbled by these women's bravery and disgusted by the men performing these kind of atrocities!
Graphic: Pedophilia, Rape, and Sexual assault
kassy182's review against another edition
4.5
women deserve more. women have never been given what they deserve and they deserve so much more than a man can even conceive.
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Fatphobia, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Car accident, Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Sexual harassment
sprigofdill's review against another edition
4.0
However much I liked the work and admire he intensity of its process of creation, I did develop a discomfort in its aim. Taddeo outlines in the prologue that she hopes to illustrate the relatability of female desire through three specific women’s experiences. However, I do question the universality of the three white women (two catholic women) as benchmarks for the universality of female sexuality and desire. On the same note, I also acknowledge that perhaps the author isn’t the person for the job of describing the sexuality of All intersectional women, however.
Ultimately, this book was so worth the read if you are to set aside the claimed of “relatability”.
Graphic: Pedophilia, Sexual assault, and Sexual content
quills4days's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Bullying, Child abuse, Cursing, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Infidelity, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Grief, and Death of parent
rswindle1990's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Child abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, and Suicide
emilyhansen's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Eating disorder, and Sexual assault