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jannythelibrarian's review
3.25
listened to the audiobook 7hr. interesting and pacing was not for me. last section with the kid was abrupt
she moves to china to spread the cult. learned the language. talks about childhood/young adult in the cult and eventually getting disfellowshipped. gets into cultural differences. eventually gets deprogrammed by some stranger she met online through work. she thought they were in love but nah. last bit is about restarting life in new york then wtf her 3 month yr old dies bc of daycare neglect
she moves to china to spread the cult. learned the language. talks about childhood/young adult in the cult and eventually getting disfellowshipped. gets into cultural differences. eventually gets deprogrammed by some stranger she met online through work. she thought they were in love but nah. last bit is about restarting life in new york then wtf her 3 month yr old dies bc of daycare neglect
easage81's review
challenging
dark
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
sad
tense
medium-paced
4.0
floresben73's review
5.0
This is an absolutely stellar memoir. I'd recommend it to anyone interested in learning more about why I call Jehovah's Witnesses a cult. Essentially, this is is the publicly accessible version of "Crisis of Conscience" by Ray Franz; Franz did a great job but his book is (in my opinion) more oriented to former Witnesses. Scorah does a good job of briefly explaining why Jehovah's Witnesses do or do not do certain things, but "Leaving the Witness" is not heavy on the structural and theological analysis of Jehovah's Witnesses in the same way CoC was.
She's just sharing her experience as a Pioneer in China, and how over the course of a few years and with the help of an internet stranger she was gently nudged into realizing her circumstances. All it took was one "worldly" person with a kind heart to show her that the world was not as bad as it seems. Speaking for myself personally, I know that if I didn't have associations with people outside of my congregation, I would still be there. I'd be a sad, lonely person, forcing myself deeper and deeper into the closet. Books like this are highly personal to me, and make me reflect on my own experiences as a former Jehovah's Witness.
I have a friend (or maybe had a friend is a better way of saying it) that I grew up with; our families went on little vacations together nearly every year, we were at their house for dinner almost once a week, they came to our apartment to swim in our pool on hot summer days. In fact, there was a brief period of time where I might have said him and his brother were my only friends. He got married almost two years ago, and my Mom and I weren't invited. My Mom is only inactive and I have never expressed my doubts to friends in the Hall; neither of us are disfellowshipped. A few months after their marriage, my Mom was in town and wanted to surprise them at their house. I managed to pull my friend to the side and finally five years after starting this journey I came out to him. It was like I was 16 again: I lost the words, there was a big lump in my throat, and I feared this vengeful God. My friend looked so sad and so confused when I told him. When we said goodbye, he (surprisingly) gave me a hug, but I think it truly was a goodbye hug. I don't know when or if I'll see this friend again. I hope that one day we can reminisce about the times we pretended to be spaceship captains in his backyard, or that one time we terrified a couple walking their dog down the street by hiding a walkie-talkie in the shrubs, and making it screech when they passed by. But perhaps most of all, I hope that one day we can share with one another how we realized we had to exit this religion and find a new life.
She's just sharing her experience as a Pioneer in China, and how over the course of a few years and with the help of an internet stranger she was gently nudged into realizing her circumstances. All it took was one "worldly" person with a kind heart to show her that the world was not as bad as it seems. Speaking for myself personally, I know that if I didn't have associations with people outside of my congregation, I would still be there. I'd be a sad, lonely person, forcing myself deeper and deeper into the closet.
Spoiler
I might have ended up like Dale, the disfellowshipped Gay man in Scorah's congregation who hanged himself.I have a friend (or maybe had a friend is a better way of saying it) that I grew up with; our families went on little vacations together nearly every year, we were at their house for dinner almost once a week, they came to our apartment to swim in our pool on hot summer days. In fact, there was a brief period of time where I might have said him and his brother were my only friends. He got married almost two years ago, and my Mom and I weren't invited. My Mom is only inactive and I have never expressed my doubts to friends in the Hall; neither of us are disfellowshipped. A few months after their marriage, my Mom was in town and wanted to surprise them at their house. I managed to pull my friend to the side and finally five years after starting this journey I came out to him. It was like I was 16 again: I lost the words, there was a big lump in my throat, and I feared this vengeful God. My friend looked so sad and so confused when I told him. When we said goodbye, he (surprisingly) gave me a hug, but I think it truly was a goodbye hug. I don't know when or if I'll see this friend again. I hope that one day we can reminisce about the times we pretended to be spaceship captains in his backyard, or that one time we terrified a couple walking their dog down the street by hiding a walkie-talkie in the shrubs, and making it screech when they passed by. But perhaps most of all, I hope that one day we can share with one another how we realized we had to exit this religion and find a new life.
ellmel's review
5.0
My husband grew up as a Jehovah's Witness. He was disfellowshipped for dating me. Before reading the book, I had a pretty good understanding of how he felt about leaving and everything he lost. Amber Scorah so eloquently describes what it is like to "wake up" in the cult and being disfellowshipped. She discusses a lot of things I hadn't thought about before - like having to learn how to socialize in the world outside of the cult. I don't think a lot of people know that it is a cult. I sure didn't know anything about JW's before dating my now-husband. Great book that I think everyone should read.
gertrude314's review
4.0
Amber's path to leaving the Witnesses was really unique. She had to go all the way to China to realize how oppressed she was in her own life. It's so interesting to hear what makes people leave or realize they're in a cult.