Reviews with content warning for Rape - Acts of Desperation

if you want to know what not to do in a relationship, maybe this book is for you. Additionally, maybe I don't hate the writing but I do not like this woman. Maybe that's why it got the score that it did.

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omgyaynina's review

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challenging reflective slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5

I might need to sit with this one for a while before writing a full review. The writing was raw and compelling, but the story did start to lose my interest around the halfway point. It became monotonous, the characters not really doing much or changing — granted that may have been the point.

I often saw a younger version of myself in the FMC, which was validating and disturbing simultaneously. If I hadn’t borrowed this from the library I would have been annotating it furiously, and I might buy a copy to do just that. It made me think a lot, and feel a lot, which is what I want from a book.

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aestheticism's review

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dark reflective sad fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? No
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

Acts of Desperation is the most intimate, immersive experience of a bad relationship I’ve ever encountered - including any other books, including films and shows.

It’s complicated to think critically about the book as a whole. On one hand it was incredible writing, so insightful and such purposeful use of words to convey ideas it feels like no one has explained this well before. Some favourite quotes from around the start of the book were:

“I love myself in love. I find my feelings fascinating and human, and for once I can sympathise with my own actions.”

“Being young and beautiful felt like a lot sometimes, felt like it translated to real-world power, but money shat all over it every time.”

The book can be described as an study on female victimisation: all the different ways a woman - in particular a feminine white woman - can be addicted to it, and all the bad that comes from it. In this sense, it was always so interesting to me, maybe more so as an outsider who can’t really use tears as a weapon. In this case, I do think Boy Parts did a better job of having thorough self awareness (of author, not of protagonist), so I can’t rate this book the same as Boy Parts. There is some reflection and honesty about why she does some things, but I did not feel it was fully acknowledged how much she favours being a victim over anything else (like being safe, being happy)

On the other hand, the heavy topics were plenty, to the point where they couldn’t all be handled with the same amount of care and precision. The aftermath of heavy drinking was always talked about with the voice of an accustomed alcoholic, but you don’t really see the same thing for the self-harm, and definitely not for the eating disorder. Because of that, it felt a little like one of these would get thrown in to illustrate her emotions, but not necessarily be treated with the amount if depth that it should. An example of a book that dealt with such things in a more well-rounded way is Conversations with Friends. Additionally, as someone who is very critical about triggering scenes and classifies most of popular media’s as trauma porn, I can’t say I finished the book completely able to justify the use of each one in relation to the characterisation. The last one in particular did feel like overkill and like it was more there to make a comment on that type of behaviour than to fit well with the protagonist’s progression.

As always with these books, narrators throw around big statements about how people richer than them get X Y and Z, and how they are so underprivileged, but then with no self-awareness go and do something only a very privileged person with parents’ money can do. With Boy Parts, it was at least acknowledged that the protagonist’s parents pay some of her rent. This is why Boy Parts was amazing, it lays everything out on the table and lets you figure out the protagonist’s hypocrisy on your own. With Insatiable, it tried to make money a main theme, while also living an upper class life and having things like parents paying for a wedding. Insatiable is on the low self awareness end of the spectrum of course, and had a way less critical view of the protagonist’s flaws. Now Acts of Desperation does mention upper middle class parents, but the whining about other irresponsible people getting nepotism jobs brought the self awareness back down (wow who would have thought that being irresponsible without having any back up plan would put you in this position? Totally the fault of the guy who has a job and was irresponsible knowing he would have it anyway) then, the protagonist did work full time for a while, making it understandable that she could afford flights and some time off for a foreign country. But then to live in that country for six months without speaking the language? It’s obvious that there is some support from parents but it’s not acknowledged which irked me. Of course, acknowledging it would interfere with the victim narrative, but this was disappointing because by that point it felt as if the character had laid out all her flaws with honesty already. It felt like regressing.

I’d recommend this book to anyone who wants to understand the realistic two sides of a toxic relationship, without getting a clean perfect dichotomy of hero vs villain, BUT is sure they are okay with reading the topics that are possibly triggering.

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kotaxoxo's review

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challenging dark emotional sad tense fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? N/A
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

this book was like snapshots of life’s most raw and dark moments but filled with the beauty of realism. It felt so real and palpable and really shed a light on how female desire and obsession can manifest into the most devastating realities.

Idk I just felt oddly connected to this , not every single part, but the psychological aspects of needing to feel or be seen as human through other people or experience life through how people view you (specifically men)……. WOW that was just WOW.

I will say TW for S/A and r@pe, cus that threw me off a lot and made me feel ill.

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