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3.73 AVERAGE
3.73 AVERAGE
Book Riot Read Harder Challenge 2017: Read a travel memoir. 3.5 stars. This book inspired mixed feelings for me. It's certainly a travelogue, but it's also a relationship memoir: Kristin travels not just because her friends are settling down and she isn't (as implied by the title), but because I struggled to root for her until she reached some self-awareness:
"...I was normal. Years later, Lena Dunham’s character on Girls would have a similar moment when she broke down and wept to a nice, handsome doctor with a beautiful house, “Please don’t tell anyone this, but I want to be happy … I want all the things everyone wants.” I was embarrassed to be a thirty-five-year-old woman who was looking for true love, and a family. It was so freaking typical."
Her travel philosophy (which I like) of "do the thing you're supposed to do in the the place you're supposed to do it" includes sex partners (which I don't identify with at all). I'm glad this approach worked for her, but I did find myself thinking it was pretty unsafe, and there was no mention that she was aware of the cachet of being American -- i.e., the possibility that guys hooked up with her not for a "vacationship" but in hopes of marrying into better life opportunities. Maybe they were always on the same page for a short-term fling, but I wondered, especially about her Spanish teacher whose confession of love she shrugged off.
I identified a lot with her takedown of "moo cows" (her name for when you discover something in common with someone that seems so unlikely that IT MUST BE A SIGN, and you cling to it in spite of obvious other signs that you aren't compatible), and her realization that finding love is really all about timing.
I really liked these parts and have been thinking a lot about them:
"Life is almost never about choosing between one thing you really want and another thing you don't want at all. If you're lucky, and healthy, and live in a country where you have enough to eat and no fear that you're going to get shot when you walk out your door, life is an endless series of choosing between two things you want almost equally. And you have to evaluate and determine which awesome thing you want infinitesimally more, and then give up that other awesome thing you want almost exactly as much. You have to trade awesome for awesome. Everyone I knew, no matter what they chose, was at least a little in mourning for that other thing.”
“I always say that I need to travel to keep from dying of boredom from my own internal monologue. I think that, generally, most of us have a total of about twenty thoughts. And we just scroll through those thoughts, over and over again, in varying order, all day every day.”
“She told me that since they date exclusively [in Judaism] with the intent to marry, the conversation is very direct right from the start. You’re not sitting quietly next to each other at a movie wondering if you can get over his awful shirt. You’re interviewing. And from your first date, you’re focusing, apparently, on only three questions: Do we want the same things out of life? Do we bring out the best in each other? Do we find each other attractive? That’s it. In that order.”
Spoiler
she is avoiding "the void," a big piece of which includes untreated family trauma and fear that she will, indeed, end up alone in spite of desperately pretending she doesn't care."...I was normal. Years later, Lena Dunham’s character on Girls would have a similar moment when she broke down and wept to a nice, handsome doctor with a beautiful house, “Please don’t tell anyone this, but I want to be happy … I want all the things everyone wants.” I was embarrassed to be a thirty-five-year-old woman who was looking for true love, and a family. It was so freaking typical."
Her travel philosophy (which I like) of "do the thing you're supposed to do in the the place you're supposed to do it" includes sex partners (which I don't identify with at all). I'm glad this approach worked for her, but I did find myself thinking it was pretty unsafe, and there was no mention that she was aware of the cachet of being American -- i.e., the possibility that guys hooked up with her not for a "vacationship" but in hopes of marrying into better life opportunities. Maybe they were always on the same page for a short-term fling, but I wondered, especially about her Spanish teacher whose confession of love she shrugged off.
I identified a lot with her takedown of "moo cows" (her name for when you discover something in common with someone that seems so unlikely that IT MUST BE A SIGN, and you cling to it in spite of obvious other signs that you aren't compatible), and her realization that finding love is really all about timing.
I really liked these parts and have been thinking a lot about them:
"Life is almost never about choosing between one thing you really want and another thing you don't want at all. If you're lucky, and healthy, and live in a country where you have enough to eat and no fear that you're going to get shot when you walk out your door, life is an endless series of choosing between two things you want almost equally. And you have to evaluate and determine which awesome thing you want infinitesimally more, and then give up that other awesome thing you want almost exactly as much. You have to trade awesome for awesome. Everyone I knew, no matter what they chose, was at least a little in mourning for that other thing.”
“I always say that I need to travel to keep from dying of boredom from my own internal monologue. I think that, generally, most of us have a total of about twenty thoughts. And we just scroll through those thoughts, over and over again, in varying order, all day every day.”
“She told me that since they date exclusively [in Judaism] with the intent to marry, the conversation is very direct right from the start. You’re not sitting quietly next to each other at a movie wondering if you can get over his awful shirt. You’re interviewing. And from your first date, you’re focusing, apparently, on only three questions: Do we want the same things out of life? Do we bring out the best in each other? Do we find each other attractive? That’s it. In that order.”
I really enjoyed this book by Kristin Newman. As a professional script writer, of course she knows how to craft a book properly and is an excellent story teller. She also lives a life I have not led and so it’s interesting to see it through her eyes and experience. It’s a quick and entertaining read which I would recommend.
I'm a fan of Kristin Newman's television work, and really enjoyed this read. Quite a few literal LOL moments as you follow her travel adventures through her twenties and thirties. I would recommend this book to anyone who digs today's comedy television landscape.
I really enjoyed this book. I actually "read" it as an audio book during a particularly commute-heavy week and finished it in two days. I thought that Ms. Newman managed to cover a myriad of trips and topics, without sounding trite, redundant, or boring. I found this book to be better written and more interesting than other travel/memoir books that I've read. Definitely recommend! Especially for women, such as me, who are single in their late 20s. :)
I wasn't blown away by this book. It took me a while to get into it and I really didn't feel a connection to Kristin until Chapter 11. Once her escapades were less about sexual conquests and more about spiritual growth, the book grew on me. A light, carefree summer read.
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I have already told several friends of mine about this hilarious and often poignant memoir by Kristin Newman. Due to where I currently live and work in the world there are many women out there like Ms. Newman who due to the demands of their career or just because they realize that marriage and kids is not for them end up doing something else completely different than their friends and family.
Ms. Newman is a comedy writer and has written for shows like "Chuck", "How I Met Your Mother" and "That 70s Show." Being a comedy writer in L.A. sounds interesting, and readers will get some details sprinkled throughout about the writer's room and what parts of her life made it into certain episodes. However, the majority of this memoir really focuses on Ms. Newman's first love and heartbreak and how from that experience she started to travel more and got to meet some very interesting and pivotal people in her life.
As someone who only left the country for the first time when I was 25 (I went to Italy) I know how intoxicating it can be when you start to travel for the first time as a single woman. I also know how Ms. Newman feels when she starts to relate how slowly but surely all of her friends started to do normal things like get married and have kids and how out of place you feel when you are still looking for the one.
I loved reading about her adventures in Amsterdam, the Dominican Republic, Russia and a whole slew of other places. Readers will also enjoy Ms. Newman's writing style which I thought was detailed without being boring. Several times while reading I started laughing at a story she was relating. It felt as if I was hanging out with one of my friends, sipping wine, and gabbing about all of the goofy things we did while on a recent trip.
One thing that I do want to give Ms. Newman credit for is that she acknowledges at times how selfish she was during certain parts of her life. I ultimately thought this was a very self aware memoir and would definitely read something written by Ms. Newman again in the future.
I would definitely recommend!
Please note that I received this novel for free through the Amazon Vine Program and this novel will be released on May 20, 2014.
Ms. Newman is a comedy writer and has written for shows like "Chuck", "How I Met Your Mother" and "That 70s Show." Being a comedy writer in L.A. sounds interesting, and readers will get some details sprinkled throughout about the writer's room and what parts of her life made it into certain episodes. However, the majority of this memoir really focuses on Ms. Newman's first love and heartbreak and how from that experience she started to travel more and got to meet some very interesting and pivotal people in her life.
As someone who only left the country for the first time when I was 25 (I went to Italy) I know how intoxicating it can be when you start to travel for the first time as a single woman. I also know how Ms. Newman feels when she starts to relate how slowly but surely all of her friends started to do normal things like get married and have kids and how out of place you feel when you are still looking for the one.
I loved reading about her adventures in Amsterdam, the Dominican Republic, Russia and a whole slew of other places. Readers will also enjoy Ms. Newman's writing style which I thought was detailed without being boring. Several times while reading I started laughing at a story she was relating. It felt as if I was hanging out with one of my friends, sipping wine, and gabbing about all of the goofy things we did while on a recent trip.
One thing that I do want to give Ms. Newman credit for is that she acknowledges at times how selfish she was during certain parts of her life. I ultimately thought this was a very self aware memoir and would definitely read something written by Ms. Newman again in the future.
I would definitely recommend!
Please note that I received this novel for free through the Amazon Vine Program and this novel will be released on May 20, 2014.
Probably naive, but I was surprised by the ending. I'm happy for the author, but disappointed for me.
Enjoyable read with some good insights and some traveling advice. Also, funny without trying too hard.