Reviews tagging 'Emotional abuse'

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Difficult, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

33 reviews

_fallinglight_'s review against another edition

challenging informative reflective medium-paced

2.0

Too much ableism to take seriously and it got increasingly repetitive that I felt I was not retaining anything by the end bc I kept zoning out. It was revelatory though, that for all their faults, my parents were emotionally mature when it came to raising me and made me feel I mattered. Like my dad hits most of the emotionally immature, externalizer checklists (lol) but in general he was surprisingly attentive to me growing up and not in a manipulative way or anything like in some of the examples provided here. So I thought I was gonna end up trashing my parents but no, I'm actually surprised that they were PARENTS parents to me. Who knew? So my focus went on how this book is so ableist and dunks on neurodivergent people ridiculously a lot, why are people praising it so much? Also, when she starts describing externalizers vs. internalizers it felt like reading the horoscope and she kept referecing old, Cold War era studies. But after reading this part in the book, it's not surprising.

Human emotional immaturity has been studied for a long time. However, over the years it has lost ground to an increasing focus on symptoms and clinical diagnosis, using a medical disease model to quantify behaviors as illnesses suitable for insurance reimbursement. 

That sounds red flaggy to me idk. And to reach her hard set conclusions this dr. has to be super simplistic and conveniently ignores a bunch of social, racial, economic and mental factors. Like I don't pretend to know more than her but the book feels incomplete to me bc of that, but maybe I'm just talking out of my ass.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Ableism, Emotional abuse, and Toxic relationship

akswhy's review against another edition

hopeful informative fast-paced

3.0

Good information for adults struggling with boundaries with their parents, but I  read it for the final chapter on how to identify emotionally mature people while dating. That chapter was mainly common sense (they ask questions about you, they don’t have a temper, they are steady and consistent emotionally, etc.).

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicide attempt, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Suicide

dalek_caan's review against another edition

reflective slow-paced

2.75

I feel like it included some interesting ideas overall, but also seemed to misrepresent an array of psychological studies when it talked about subjects related to the topic at hand. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse

akvolcano's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective slow-paced

4.5

Great book! Provided a lot of language to help articulate my experience. Had a lot realizations. Would recommend and would read again!

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Transphobia, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, Abandonment, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Body shaming, Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Confinement, Chronic illness, Death, Ableism, Alcohol, Sexual harassment, Pregnancy, Misogyny, Infidelity, Hate crime, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, Drug use, Bullying, Stalking, Sexual violence, Sexism, Grief, Mental illness, Domestic abuse, Toxic friendship, Physical abuse, Panic attacks/disorders, and Injury/Injury detail

shima707's review against another edition

Disturbingly useful

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Content Warnings

Minor: Toxic relationship, Child abuse, Abandonment, and Emotional abuse

_maddy_'s review against another edition

informative inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Mental illness, and Child abuse

malachinelson's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad fast-paced

4.0

Informative book which describes emotionally immature parents, their children, their relationships, childhood and adult difficulties, remediation, and tools for success. Very hopeful and difficult book to read. 

I only wish that the book was longer and slower paced. It moves too quickly and lacks deep exploration of some issues. It is lacking on the intersection of emotional immaturity and race, gender, social class, etc.

I read it every few years as a way of checking in with my own personal development as I continually navigate relationships with parents and friends at various levels of emotional maturity.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Toxic relationship, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Adult/minor relationship, and Toxic friendship

Minor: Drug abuse, Addiction, Homophobia, Misogyny, Suicide, Alcoholism, and Child abuse

stepnic's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Gaslighting, and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Misogyny, Child abuse, Abandonment, Bullying, Domestic abuse, Grief, and Panic attacks/disorders

Minor: Alcoholism, Body shaming, Infidelity, and Addiction

marxxx's review against another edition

challenging hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Physical abuse and Emotional abuse

tomato_bisque's review against another edition

challenging emotional funny informative reflective fast-paced

4.0

Very enlightening read, I really think everyone can learn something from it. My few complaints was how internalizer-focused it was. I felt like more focus could've been on externalizers. As she herself said, everyone falls on a spectrum. Another thing that bothered me was it was a bit stigmatizing, "emotionally immature" and "mature" was probably used for simplicity. Again, we all do fall on a spectrum. Even the most emotionally mature person has moments of immaturity. 

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Child abuse and Emotional abuse