Reviews with content warning for Body shaming - The Hating Game

Temporarily, I've lowered the rating from my original 4 stars to 3.75, because unfortunately, upon re-reading it, I haven't enjoyed it the same way anymore? But I'm not sure what I do want to rate it, but 3.75 stars sounds reasonable, so it'll stay this way for now.

Anyways, the reasons why I didn't have quite the same joy reading this book that I had back in 2018 were:
1. I didn't really like the characters. Josh was mean (I know it was said that he was actually just ~shy~, but personally, that doesn't really excuse treating other people like shit and making them scared to come to work and talk to you) and oftentimes just ignored what Lucy wanted, and his jealousy really got on my freaking nerves. Like, the way he acted around Danny drove me insane. And Lucy's horniness made me honestly just exhausted. I'm a sex-indifferent asexual, so I'm usually completely fine with people being horny (even if I can't fathom feeling that way myself), but her attitude reminded me of that time period in my life when I thought I was sex-repulsed, and overly horny people made me want to bash my head in with a tire iron. Go to horny jail, Lucy.
2. I didn't enjoy the romance as much as I thought I would. I didn't like the way both Lucy and Josh treated Danny and used him, and especially the beginning of the relationship just ... didn't sit right with me. Josh didn't apologise for his shitty behaviour until literally the end, and while I'm glad they got that out of the way, I wished that happened sooner. Lucy basically just let Josh treat her kind of badly (he wasn't abusive per se, but very dismissive and cruel at times) and accepted it because of her own feelings or him. In turn, she objectified the crap out of Josh, even after she learnt that a lot of his exes were only with him because of his looks and didn't actually like his personality.
3. Lucy, for some reason, seemed to come to the same conclusions several times? Like, there were two separate times when she realised that Josh didn't actually hate her. I found that a bit annoying and repetitive. It stalled the plot sometimes, which always confused me, because I thought we'd already been over that at that point.
4. Speaking of repetitiveness, the way Thorne hammered home that Lucy and Josh were obsessed with each other's eyes was way too much.
5. The book was focusing a lot on masculinity, and calling things masculine that weren't actually inherently so, and using feminine as an almost negative descriptor? Coming from Lucy, it was just weird. If it came from Josh, I'd just assume he had a fragile masculinity and was afraid to be seen as anything but, but since everything was in Lucy's POV, it was just ... weird.
6. The hetero- and allonormativity of it all made me tired. Like, no, Thorne, not every single woman who has and will ever meet Josh will want to climb him like a tree. And no, just because two people had dated for a year doesn't automatically mean they'd had sex. And why do straight people always act like cavemen the moment their crush or significant other has someone from the opposite sex obviously fawning over them?
7. I know Mr. Bexley wasn't exactly the best person, but you can talk about what a useless CEO he is without constantly making fun of his weight and that he likes to eat. Like, maybe concentrate on how creepy and gross he was for constantly looking down Lucy's shirt, which was the way bigger issue in my opinion.

What I did enjoy, however, was Thorne's writing. It felt really out of control, and she phrased things in a way that both fit Lucy's personality perfectly and sometimes made me laugh incredulously, just because they gave me really funny visuals. I also didn't mind the smut (though I would've preferred a bit more of it if it meant I got a bit less of horny Lucy). There were definitely a lot of funny scenes that made me crack up, though I think it wasn't quite as many as on my first read.

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emotional funny lighthearted fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.0

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angelsfw's review against another edition

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emotional funny hopeful inspiring lighthearted medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? Yes
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

1.0

“fight with me, kiss me. laugh at me. tell me if you’re sad. don’t make me go home.”

i really enjoyed this romance and had a lot of fun while reading it. i thought the banter between the two characters was so funny and it did make me laugh at times. their relationship had a very natural progression and nothing felt too rushed. the chemistry was completely believable and they both had me enraptured and rooting for them.

however, the reason this is rated 1 star and not 5 is because in the first printing of the book the author used the r-slur. On page 358, josh refers to himself as “emotionally stunted”, which was what was changed in later printings. why is that a word authors still feel the need to use in their books ? its so completely unnecessary and i would have never known if i hadn’t read reviews myself. its great that it was changed, but it shouldn’t have been used in the first place. ableism isn’t cute or quirky so stop using the r-slur. in addition to this, there was also unnecessary amounts of fatphobia. fat and ugly were essentially used interchangeably throughout the book. this outdated idea is simply not true ?!?!?!?! fat does not equal ugly and i can’t even believe the author included that ?

also, the whole “lucy being way shorter than josh” was ridiculous at times. she referred to herself as small and squishy too many times throughout the book. there are much better ways to emphasize a height difference. she also made it a point to compare her body to josh’s and how she was so “squishy” in comparison to his muscle toned figure. i just felt it was so unnecessary.

despite that, this has definitely become a comfort read for me. i feel like there’s a lot the author can learn from in this book and i encourage her to do just that.

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medium-paced

3.5

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emotional funny lighthearted fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.0

Ah enemies to lovers… this is probably my favourite romance trope and I will recommend The Hating Game to anyone looking for a strong execution of this storyline.

What I liked:
• perfect steam level for me, the slow burn was very well done
• the sassy banter (always here for sassy banter)
• the writing felt fresh and sharp
• the elevator scene…

Howevers:
• exactly why did they hate each other THAT much? Not sure I really know (but also, not sure it really matters to me if it’s believable or not)
• the main characters were not developed enough to really take this one out of the 4⭐️ range for me
• instances of fatphobia / ableist language / problematic dialogue around shaming for appearance left me with a 🤨 feeling at several moments while reading

My motivation to push this to the top of the TBR was the movie, so now I’m all set to watch and compare.

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