Reviews

You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships as an Adult by Lane Moore

namirasrot's review against another edition

emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective fast-paced

4.5

Everyone over the age of 12 should read this.

triforce's review against another edition

5.0

Part self help, part memoir, You Will Find Your People is an incredible read that made me laugh, cry, and think about my past relationships with people.

I’ve been the awful friend, the horrible one, but I’ve also been the people pleaser, desperate to have a crumb of attention. I hope in recent years, after therapy and a lot of growth and learning, I’m becoming the friend people enjoy having and I enjoy their friendship in return.

I have never felt more validated and seen while reading this. Time and time again, I shook my iPad, thinking to myself “yes!! This is exactly what I’ve felt so many times.”

I wish I had unlimited money because I would buy everyone a copy of this book. But I’m just a person working at a library, so support your local library and pick this book up there. And if it resonates with you, maybe buy a copy, too.

Thank you to the author and publisher and Edelweiss+ for the advance copy. I’m genuinely honoured to have gotten to read this. So far this is my favourite book of 2023.

notsailingalone's review

funny reflective slow-paced

3.0

This was well written, conversational, and funny. The best chapters are when she's describing how to be a good friend or discussing how friendships are relationships that need nurturing. I found it frustrating at times when she seemed to expect friends to read her mind. 

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Content Warnings

Minor: Toxic friendship, Bullying, Abandonment, and Mental illness

jkamler's review against another edition

hopeful inspiring reflective medium-paced

3.75

bobin's review against another edition

hopeful informative fast-paced

3.0

junefish's review against another edition

emotional funny inspiring reflective fast-paced

3.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicidal thoughts

cdhotwing's review against another edition

funny hopeful informative lighthearted reflective medium-paced

4.5

missb_reads's review against another edition

emotional hopeful informative reflective sad medium-paced

5.0

lyricallit's review against another edition

fast-paced

Not exactly what I expected. I assumed (my fault) that the author had some background in sociology or psychology, so I was expecting something more along those lines, more research & case studies. Instead, Moore provides reflections more based on her own experiences and pop culture. The latter creates a challenging tension as she both reminds us that media depictions of friendship are rarely the nuanced shades of grey of reality, while also holding up examples from TV or movies as references. Some are clearly set up as anti-examples, but not always. The bonus chapter of the audiobook, Letters I Wish I Could Send My Friends, sounds more relaxed, natural and maybe should have been the structure of the whole book. 

It is reassuring to know, for those of us who have experienced or are living thru a friend breakup or shift, that we are not alone. I hope that the next trends in media will develop some of her ideas presented here, giving us more nuanced & realistic depictions of the ups and downs of friendship.

orchidd's review against another edition

funny hopeful fast-paced

2.5

i think this book is very good at validating and expressing feelings of loneliness and inadequacy but i wish it had delved more deeply into redefining friendship and the ways that norms surrounding friendship limit it (there is some of that, though). i also hoped for some more practical, concrete advice (e.g., what a boundary is and how to set one). i don’t think i was the right audience for this book; i don’t really need validation or relatability and was mostly looking for how to be a good friend.