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The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
Esther Perel
4.26 AVERAGE
657 reviews for:
The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
Esther Perel
4.26 AVERAGE
As someone who frequently worked with sex addicts, adulterers, and those experiencing betrayal trauma, this book is super interesting. I often find myself saying “don’t let your affair go to waste!” and “your old marriage is dead; now you have the choice to have a new and better one” because of Perel’s podcast. I don’t agree with her perspectives on polyandry and open relationships, but there’s more to affairs than pure lust (if you can accept that).
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Guys, this might be my favorite non-fiction of the year –and it’s February. I’ve never been cheated on, nor cheated, and still this book was so valuable to me. I was considering my relationships with family, friends, humans in general, realizing my own entitlements and lacks of understanding. I think this book gave me so many cool, important things to think about and a lot of resiliency (let’s see.)
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Although Perel tried, this book is mainly targeted at cishet couples. As someone in a queer relationship, I don't think I got as much out of this book as someone else could have.
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If you've been cheated on, read this book! If you've cheated on someone, read this book! If you've thought about cheating, read this book! If you judge people who cheat on their partners, read this book! If you're a therapist and want to develop compassion for someone who is part of an affair, read this book! Esther Perel will help you understand why people cheat, what the affair means, and how repair can happen in a relationship where infidelity has occurred. Would highly recommend reading this if you live in a culture where monogamy is the default setting for relationships.