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ugnyte's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
bethfalenski's review
5.0
You will understand you man (or woman) and you will also understand yourself better as well. Try to put an end to those pesky arguments. Why not?
Ladies...even if your guy won't pick this up to read his half you will still gain a lot from being the solo reader.
Very demystifying.
Ladies...even if your guy won't pick this up to read his half you will still gain a lot from being the solo reader.
Very demystifying.
tehleah's review against another edition
2.0
Giving it 2 stars instead of 1 because although it was a painful read, I could at least get something out of it. Unfortunately due to the way it’s written, I feel that the book certainly does not hold relevant to this generation. As a relatively open minded person, it’s jarring to feel like I’m reverting back to having to accept stereotypical and sexist ideals conveyed in a somewhat condescending manner. It might just be that it’s over simplified, or I’m not the target audience, but I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone who couldn’t take the content with a grain of salt and realise that relationship dynamics are different now and needed to be treated that way.
dozylocal's review
Got a little boring/repetitive towards the end. There are some interesting/useful ideas and concepts in the book, but he could have definitely explained them in fewer words! Would I give it to my partner to read? Yes - after I'd highlighted the relevant paragraphs. Also - remember this is written by a male - so some rules/suggestions should probably be taken with a pinch of salt.
natalie_quintana's review against another edition
3.0
This book has some great insights to help in interpersonal communication with the opposite sex. Though there are some gerealities in speaking about the nature of the sexes, the core content is very helpful. There are some sections that tend to repeat themselves, and there are a few editing errors. But this is a very easy read and will bring awareness into yourself as you communicate with our significant other and parents.
bookaholic_kim's review against another edition
4.0
Everyone should read this book. It would answer some of our questions and it would help us deal with the opposite sex.
This book is indeed informative and fascinating. However, there are some things mentioned that i don't agree on because they are bias, but overall I did enjoy reading it.
This book is indeed informative and fascinating. However, there are some things mentioned that i don't agree on because they are bias, but overall I did enjoy reading it.
bu3teqa's review against another edition
1.0
تمطيط اكثر من تمطيط ون بيس!
وتطبيل اكثر من تطبيل اتاك!
الكاتب لديه فكرتين او ثلاث وجلس يمطط فيهم واخترع له كتاب ويطبل لنفسه تطبيل مهوول! لدرجه اني إشمئزيت من شخصيتة حتى انه قال "لدي القليل فقط لأتعلمه" إنها اول مره لي اسمع شخصاً يقول هذه الجمله! هل هو يحاول قول انه خبير ويعلم كل شى عن العلاقات؟ لم اسمع قط بروفيسور خبير دكتور مهندس عالم اي كان يقول "لدي القليل لأتعلمه" دائماً ما يقولون "لدينا الكثير لنتعلمه" او "لقد بدأنا مسيرتنا للتو" او "ينتظرنا طريق طويل لنتعلم" لا احد لديه علم شامل لشئ معين. وان هذه الجملة استفزتني وبينت لي ان الكاتب وجد الكثير من المديح حتى اغتر بنفسه. فلا طباخ يقول عن طبخه ممتاز ولا رسام يوصف رسمته بالمثالية. اما هذا الكاتب اعطانا مقدمات طويلة فقط يمدح فيها عمله ويبين اثره على الناس.
اختصار الكتاب لمن يريد الفائدة:-
النساء يريدون شخصاً يستمع إليهم وعلى النساء عدم توقع ان الكل يريد الإستماع لهم.
الرجال يريدون الإنعزال والجلوس بكهوفهم ولكن هذا لا يعطيهم الحق بالجلوس في الكهف دائماً.
احسنوا الظن
لبوا مطالب الاخرين
احضن زوجتك اذا بكت.
كن موجوداً وقت الضيق والفرح وحاول اختراع اعذار للطرف الاخر.
لا اظن ان هناك شئ اخر صحيح؟
الكاتب حاول يجذبنا بأسلوبه لكنه فعل العكس. لا تتوقع ان تجذب انتباه القارئ فقط لأنك جعلتنا فضائين من كواكب مختلفه. مللت وانا اقرأ الكتاب لأنك تختصر كل الكلام وتعيده وتعطي تلاخيص في نهايه كل فصل! هل انت تنسى انك كتبت تلك المعلومة ام ماذا؟
وتطبيل اكثر من تطبيل اتاك!
الكاتب لديه فكرتين او ثلاث وجلس يمطط فيهم واخترع له كتاب ويطبل لنفسه تطبيل مهوول! لدرجه اني إشمئزيت من شخصيتة حتى انه قال "لدي القليل فقط لأتعلمه" إنها اول مره لي اسمع شخصاً يقول هذه الجمله! هل هو يحاول قول انه خبير ويعلم كل شى عن العلاقات؟ لم اسمع قط بروفيسور خبير دكتور مهندس عالم اي كان يقول "لدي القليل لأتعلمه" دائماً ما يقولون "لدينا الكثير لنتعلمه" او "لقد بدأنا مسيرتنا للتو" او "ينتظرنا طريق طويل لنتعلم" لا احد لديه علم شامل لشئ معين. وان هذه الجملة استفزتني وبينت لي ان الكاتب وجد الكثير من المديح حتى اغتر بنفسه. فلا طباخ يقول عن طبخه ممتاز ولا رسام يوصف رسمته بالمثالية. اما هذا الكاتب اعطانا مقدمات طويلة فقط يمدح فيها عمله ويبين اثره على الناس.
اختصار الكتاب لمن يريد الفائدة:-
النساء يريدون شخصاً يستمع إليهم وعلى النساء عدم توقع ان الكل يريد الإستماع لهم.
الرجال يريدون الإنعزال والجلوس بكهوفهم ولكن هذا لا يعطيهم الحق بالجلوس في الكهف دائماً.
احسنوا الظن
لبوا مطالب الاخرين
احضن زوجتك اذا بكت.
كن موجوداً وقت الضيق والفرح وحاول اختراع اعذار للطرف الاخر.
لا اظن ان هناك شئ اخر صحيح؟
الكاتب حاول يجذبنا بأسلوبه لكنه فعل العكس. لا تتوقع ان تجذب انتباه القارئ فقط لأنك جعلتنا فضائين من كواكب مختلفه. مللت وانا اقرأ الكتاب لأنك تختصر كل الكلام وتعيده وتعطي تلاخيص في نهايه كل فصل! هل انت تنسى انك كتبت تلك المعلومة ام ماذا؟
imaneh's review against another edition
3.0
I like how the author highlights the differences between women and men and how important it is to know these differences to establish a healthy relationship.
beetree's review against another edition
3.0
Ho hum. I have really, really mixed feelings about this book. On one hand, the overarching message is good - "people are different, you can expect something that works for one person to work for everyone so you have to be open to each other and to alternate styles of communication". The book is written simply, accessibly, and some of the advice in there does make a lot of sense, could improve relationships, and can be put into practice immediately (i.e. the love letter thing is a good idea).
There were some points that resonated and rang true - like how when I have a problem, I don't want a solution to it, I just want to be held and cared for instead of being given practical solutions, etc. but then, I probably fit the stereotype of the female he's portraying relatively well.
However, the book is dated (from the 70's originally, right?) and rather sexist. If it was written today, it never would have flown and it would have made many, many people angry. It generalizes and stereotypes men and women a heck of a lot, and by the time it got into "women are like waves, men are like elastic bands", I was feeling decidedly uncomfortable and wanting to see some evidence that was more solid than "one practitioner's years of therapy."
When he veered off into the "you are this way because you have huge childhood trauma" - I really didn't think that was appropriate to try and squeeze into the last few pages of the book. I got the sense that he really had no idea what he was talking about and was just dispensing placating advice.
In conclusion, yes, there are some good points about the book, but taking it as entirely gospel would be very damaging and very narrow-minded. I'm not saying it isn't worth having a look through, but take it lightly with a lot of salt.
There were some points that resonated and rang true - like how when I have a problem, I don't want a solution to it, I just want to be held and cared for instead of being given practical solutions, etc. but then, I probably fit the stereotype of the female he's portraying relatively well.
However, the book is dated (from the 70's originally, right?) and rather sexist. If it was written today, it never would have flown and it would have made many, many people angry. It generalizes and stereotypes men and women a heck of a lot, and by the time it got into "women are like waves, men are like elastic bands", I was feeling decidedly uncomfortable and wanting to see some evidence that was more solid than "one practitioner's years of therapy."
When he veered off into the "you are this way because you have huge childhood trauma" - I really didn't think that was appropriate to try and squeeze into the last few pages of the book. I got the sense that he really had no idea what he was talking about and was just dispensing placating advice.
In conclusion, yes, there are some good points about the book, but taking it as entirely gospel would be very damaging and very narrow-minded. I'm not saying it isn't worth having a look through, but take it lightly with a lot of salt.