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nadiamarjolein's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Moderate: Death, Suicide attempt, Death of parent, Mental illness, Chronic illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Suicidal thoughts, and Suicide
greatexpectations77's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.25
Graphic: Death of parent, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Addiction, Animal death, Death, Grief, and Suicidal thoughts
Moderate: Alcoholism, Car accident, Toxic relationship, Infidelity, Alcohol, Cancer, Chronic illness, Emotional abuse, and Terminal illness
Minor: Abandonment and Medical content
jessiejessj's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Mental illness, Suicide attempt, Chronic illness, and Suicidal thoughts
isabel_np's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Suicide attempt, Animal death, and Suicidal thoughts
Moderate: Panic attacks/disorders, Addiction, Death of parent, and Self harm
Minor: Cancer, Car accident, Chronic illness, Drug abuse, and Alcoholism
arbramirez's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Infidelity, Body shaming, Cancer, Death of parent, Alcoholism, Gaslighting, Self harm, Suicide attempt, Death, Emotional abuse, Addiction, Chronic illness, Suicidal thoughts, Grief, Mental illness, and Car accident
schnaucl's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.5
I spent most of the book being strongly reminded of one of the better SNL skits in recent years where host Adam Sandler plays a tour guide (I believe in Italy) and makes the point that when you go on vacation you're still you. If you were lonely and depressed at home, you'll still bring your loneliness and depression when you're in vacation. You won't magically turn into a better, happier version of yourself just because you're temporarily somewhere else and it's not fair to give him a poor rating because your vacation didn't fix whatever was going wrong in your life.
Same deal. The way this worked wasn't really like Nora was watching other versions of her life, instead she was actually living it but she was still the same person as in her root life. So she didn't know facts or people the new version of her life that she should have if she'd actually been living that life, which I would think would make it frustrating and scary and leads to all kinds of imposter syndrome and not really be a good indication of what it was like to live that life. Maybe there's a life where I'm an extreme extrovert instead of being an introvert and maybe that me is very happy being an extreme extrovert. But if you just put introverted me into that life I would be miserable. To say nothing of what it would be like to be in a long term relationship with someone you've never met and can't explain why you may have gone to bed knowing the person you were sleeping next to but now that person is a complete stranger. That sounds like a recipe for adding more trauma.
Similarly, if you had the life experience to be confident about something, whether that's public speaking or signing in front of a crowd or something else, you can't have someone without that formative experience(s) step in and know what it's like to really live that life because of course root Nora isn't comfortable with those things.
I was also reminded of Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan's point that our pain makes us who we are. So actually getting rid of all your regrets would also make you a different person.
And she gives up some of her regrets pretty easily. My immediate thought about Volts having a heart condition was okay, so why isn't her next question what if I had taken Volts to the vet sooner or more often? He may have had one of his bests lives with her, but was there more she could have done? And maybe the answer was no, it wasn't a condition that could have been treated and if she'd known ahead of time the condition existed she would have spent her time within him being more worried that he would die and not just enjoying the time they had. I realize actually having the reader go through various permutations of a theme to get Nora to that point probably wouldn't be interesting for a the reader but it seems like there might be a way to quickly summarize various attempts.
I also didn't really buy her decision she wanted to live after all after the encounter with the polar bear. I understand not wanting to feel pain at death but that's not the same as wanting to live. It's also true that many people who attempt suicide attempt it multiple times before they succeed. So maybe it was part of that cycle. But she didn't actually feel curiosity about all her other lives until several lives later.
Anyway. I know you can change the life you're living and (maybe) make it better is a much more inspirational message than yep, turns out you were just living the wrong life, here, step into this other one or yes, you really did make a decision or decisions in your life that made things worse for yourself and can't be fixed, sucks to be you.
And it's also true that no life is perfect without its ups and downs.
The chapters are short, sometimes no more than a paragraph or even a single sentence, which I found distracting although I understand it also makes it read faster with a sense of urgency.
This isn't a bad book, it just wasn't the one for me and that's okay.
Graphic: Mental illness and Suicidal thoughts
Moderate: Grief and Suicide attempt
Minor: Alcoholism, Panic attacks/disorders, Car accident, Chronic illness, Death, Death of parent, Drug abuse, Drug use, Alcohol, Vomit, Medical content, and Self harm
kellyofcali's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Plot
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
Graphic: Suicide attempt, Suicide, Suicidal thoughts, and Grief
Moderate: Medical content, Vomit, Chronic illness, Addiction, and Death of parent
Minor: Toxic relationship
tingting90's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.5
Graphic: Suicide attempt, Suicide, Suicidal thoughts, and Car accident
Moderate: Addiction
Minor: Animal death, Infidelity, Alcoholism, Death of parent, Homophobia, Chronic illness, Death, Mental illness, Cancer, and Panic attacks/disorders
lynxpardinus's review against another edition
2.75
Graphic: Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Mental illness, Animal death, and Death of parent
Moderate: Stalking, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Vomit, Alcoholism, Grief, Infidelity, Panic attacks/disorders, Car accident, and Drug use
Minor: Chronic illness, Dementia, Injury/Injury detail, Animal cruelty, Homophobia, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, and Eating disorder
kimseokjinschild's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.5
Sometimes I lost interest and it began to become a bit slow paced.
Graphic: Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Death, Mental illness, Body horror, and Chronic illness