Reviews tagging 'Medical trauma'

Know My Name: The Survivor of the Stanford Sexual Assault Case Tells Her Story by Chanel Miller

111 reviews

supermanninja23's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative inspiring reflective sad tense medium-paced

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Gaslighting, Grief, Rape, Sexual assault, Injury/Injury detail, Medical trauma, Sexual harassment, Emotional abuse, and Sexual content

Moderate: Mass/school shootings

Minor: Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, and Suicide attempt

robinks's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

5.0

This was such a powerful, revolutionary memoir, and listening to it read by Chanel was so moving. I am hopeful that society is moving in a direction where victims do not have to go nearly as far as Chanel did to receive appropriate justice. I am also hopeful that these acts of violence can continue to be intercepted by community and looking out for each other. Believe victims, and believe women.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Hate crime, Medical content, Sexual violence, Gaslighting, Sexual harassment, Alcohol, Rape, Misogyny, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexism, Sexual assault, Mass/school shootings, and Medical trauma

Moderate: Suicidal thoughts, Classism, Gun violence, Suicide, Sexual content, Racism, Cursing, and Violence

Minor: Vomit

summerjohnson521's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective sad medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Misogyny and Sexual violence

Moderate: Rape, Mental illness, Sexual harassment, Gaslighting, Medical content, Medical trauma, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual content, and Sexual violence

dreamingpages's review against another edition

challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective sad medium-paced

4.25

As a survivor, this was challenging to get through. I shed a lot of tears reading this and there were many times I needed to put the book down and take a break.

Ultimately, though, the experience was cathartic. Chanel was able to put into words so many of my thoughts and feelings around SA and r**e culture that I've never been able to articulate. Her anger and hopelessness really resonated me, but so did her resilience and determination to carve out an identity beyond simply being a victim. Chanel is inspiring and so brave. 

While I understand that the purpose of this book was to reclaim her identity and call out the glaring systemic flaws in the US system for reporting SA, my only critique is that I feel the book could discourage other women from coming forward. Being realistic about the challenges of the legal process is important, but at the end, I was left with the idea that unless ALL the stars align, your case is utterly hopeless and dead in the water. I feel this is counterintuitive to encouraging change. The more women who feel empowered to come forward, the more likely we are to see major change.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Medical trauma, Rape, Sexual assault, Suicide, and Sexual violence

melissafelicia's review against another edition

emotional hopeful inspiring sad medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcohol, Medical trauma, Sexual harassment, Sexism, Sexual assault, Gaslighting, Rape, and Sexual violence

Moderate: Violence, Racism, and Drug use

shlymiller's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, Grief, and Violence

Moderate: Gaslighting, Vomit, Mental illness, and Medical trauma

Minor: Alcohol

bridgettetepper's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

Beautifully written, gut-wrenchingly insightful, incredibly important and inspiring 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Rape and Sexual assault

Moderate: Mental illness

Minor: Medical trauma

annoyedhumanoid's review against another edition

emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad slow-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Gun violence, Misogyny, Body horror, Death, Injury/Injury detail, Suicide attempt, Violence, Suicide, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Murder, Rape, Sexism, Hate crime, Mass/school shootings, and Panic attacks/disorders

Moderate: Alcohol, Grief, Medical trauma, Eating disorder, Homophobia, Blood, Cursing, Racism, Medical content, Suicidal thoughts, Classism, Stalking, Mental illness, and Racial slurs

Minor: Animal death, Sexual content, Vomit, Death of parent, Drug use, Outing, and Body shaming

cocorenfroe's review against another edition

challenging hopeful medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual assault, Rape, and Medical trauma

Moderate: Racism and Sexism

se_wigget's review against another edition

dark emotional informative reflective tense fast-paced

5.0

 

Fuck you, fucking piece of fucking shit fucking victim-blaming fucking rape apologists fucking misogynists. You are the fuck devoid of any redeeming quality.  And that fucking includes you, fucking piece of fucking shit Washington fucking Post. 

This is an intense personal account of the author's experience after rape. It has insightful cultural commentary. Make that... shitculture commentary.

 

"Victims are often, automatically, accused of lying. But when a perpetrator is exposed for lying, the stigma doesn't stick. Why is it that we're wary of victims making false accusations, but rarely consider how many men have blatantly lied about, downplayed, or manipulated others to cover their own actions (p. 191)?" 

 

"Nobody earns the right to rape. It is still rape when he is a good swimmer (p. 249)." 

 

Sexual predators as gaslighters: 

"Society [rape culture] gives women the near impossible task of separating harmlessness from danger, the foresight of knowing what some men are capable of. When we call out assault when we hear it, Trump says, I don't think you understand.  Just words. You are overreacting, overly offended, hysterical, rude [projecting], relax!!! So we dismiss threatening statements and warning signs, apologizing for our [nonexistent] paranoia. We go into a party or meeting thinking it's just a party or meeting.  But when we are taken advantage of, and come crawling back damaged, they say, How could you be so naive, you failed to detect danger, let your guard down, what did you think would happen? Trump made it clear the game is rigged, the rules keep changing. It doesn't matter what you think [or know] is assault, because in the end, he [the sexual predator] decides (p. 278)." 

  

"When society questions a victim's reluctance to report, I will be here to remind you that you ask us to sacrifice our sanity to fight outdated structures that were designed to keep us down (p. 288)." 

 

"This is not a out the victim's lack of effort. It's about society's failure to to have systems in place in which victims feel there's a probable chance of achieving safety, justice, and restoration rather than being traumatized, publicly shamed, psychologically tormented, and verbally mauled. The real question we need to be asking is not, Why didn't she report. The question is, Why would you (p. 288)?" 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Medical trauma, Gaslighting, Bullying, Medical content, Emotional abuse, Rape, Sexual harassment, Misogyny, Sexism, Injury/Injury detail, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence