Reviews with content warning for Infidelity - Damsel

The first thing you need to understand about this book is that this is NOT a children’s book, and I don’t think it’s a YA book either. At least the audiobook is falsely advertised as Children and YA.

I read some reviews, and I think part of the “problem” with this book is that people start reading it with entirely wrong expectations. The book takes the classic “a prince saves a damsel from a dragon”-trope and tells it from the damsel’s perspective. So, in a way, it’s a fairytale retelling.

Prince Emory saves Ama from a dragon. Ama has no memory of her life before being rescued. As she learns more about her saviour and what is expected of her, she starts to wonder whether she has been saved after all.

The writing style is beautiful and very fitting for a story like this. I listened to this as an audiobook, and the narrator (Elizabeth Knowelden) tells the story in a lovely way, albeit her voice is barely a whisper in parts, so I could not listen to this audiobook in a noisy place.

But let’s get back to the story. It’s NOT a romantic story, and it’s NOT a happy story. If you are familiar with Robin Hobb’s books and her villains, the villain in this book is on par with them. If you like reading about how things get progressively worse for the protagonist and can stomach some heavy topics, I’d definitely recommend this book. But do not go into this thinking that this is a feminist retelling of a classic fairytale because I think you’ll be disappointed.

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I have two main complaints with this book. I didn’t agree with the author’s choice of the three “weapons” needed to conquer a damsel. It was weird and off-putting. My second complaint is that I had to suffer through 98 % of misery to get to the end, which was over very quickly. The ending was satisfying, and I think that the last sentence about the Queen Mother witnessing the dragon’s rise was poetic. But still, 98 % of this book is pure misery.

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challenging dark emotional sad tense slow-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? No
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

2.5

TLDR: excessively obscene writing, excess of misogynistic characters, and weak willed women.

First of all, let me just say the writing in this is VULGAR. Now, I'm not afraid of smut, even graphic smut. But the author added obscene details to parts of the book where they don't belong! Like during sex, I get it. But when the character is just being dried off, you don't need to go into such detail.

"...he started with her arms, rubbed her breasts, the hard, pink, nubs of her nipples, her stomach, her buttocks, the fire of red hair between her legs, her legs themselves."

Keep in mind, this is supposed to be a young adult novel. This is meant for 12-18 year old kids. Just so much unnecessary graphic nudity. Now, there is no smut, or any sex written in this book. Just graphic nudity. While reading this, I thought the author was a man, based on the descriptions used. How overly sexualized un-sexual moments are. Like, I don't want (or need) to know that

"...the thick meat of him, a fleshy tusk, white like ivory in the bed of curled black hair."

Like, it was a non-sexual moment. The reader does NOT need to know that much detail. Like sure, you can describe the dick some, but maybe not to that amount of detail. Damn.
Anyways. Now for the actual review. Rant over. The character of Emory is so wholly misogynistic, I wanted to stab him myself. Through the pages. As if rescuing someone makes them your property. As if her being your fiancé gives you the right to gaslight her, emotionally abuse her, and more. The men in this story are so shitty, not one is even decently mannered. You would think that the queen mother, who was in the same position as Ama, would be sympathetic. It seems as though Ama is the only sane character in the book! Like, who doesn't resent

someone forcing themselves on you, someone that tries to kill your only companion, someone who won't even let you go OUTSIDE on your own? Who parades you around on a leash because you didn't ask permission for something? Who treats you like an object, "You are my bride, and your flesh is my flesh. Do not treat it so roughly," she literally just got a small burn, dude. She is not your property.

I am sorry that I am so critical of this book. I really enjoyed the general idea, and the general plot. But some things I just cannot get over. I read the whole book, and I greatly enjoyed the end. However, the whole time I was just super frustrated with the writing and the characters. The only acceptable characters in this are Ama, Tilley, and Sorrow. That's it. Ama did grow throughout the story. She tries to accept her role, but as she learns more about it, the more uncomfortable she becomes with her role. But still, she stays long after any reasonable character would have taken some sort of action. I mean, to be fair, she has no prior knowledge of any family or anything, so she would try to make the best of things. But I think there should be a limit. It's not like she loves him, or anyone in the castle. She is not pregnant with his child. She could have left. Where would she go? I don't know. Anywhere but there. So she is a bit weak willed, but eventually takes action. Tilley isn't perfect, she was only a servant, and she obeyed what she was told. She could have helped Ama, or told her what she knew about the other Damsels. Anyways. There were no strong female characters in this book. As a 20 something woman, I think we need to do better. Women need to write strong women, to help raise other women up. Don't write every woman as pathetic or weak, have some diversity, set some good examples for your young readers. Do better, Elana K. Arnold.

TLDR: excessively obscene writing, excess of misogynistic characters, and weak willed women.

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