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I’m going to want to reread this as The boys get older. Even at 2 and a half, after reading this book I have learned that our son is more capable than I’ve been giving him credit for. He is able to define his own emotions and already appreciates when I try to understand him.

Never hurts to have refresher.
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kaylahigginbo's review

2.75
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raegancampbell's review

4.0

Lots of good advice in here. I was concerned with the way some situations presented were clearly abusive and yet put the onus on both partners to resolve them.

I found this book reassuring more than informative, so after a while I kind of skimmed through it. I downloaded the pdf of the exercises and did a few with my fiance, but they kind of just confirmed that our relationship didn't have any current problems (all the quizzes said that each topic was an 'area of strength in our relationship') and didn't really teach us anything new. I guess that's a win lol.

Honestly, 90% of the issues in the book seem to be the direct result of partners not treating each other with respect. A lot of the examples of how to talk vs how not to talk are... interesting. The way that some of the example couples spoke to each other was quite frankly, horrifying. According to my friend who is a therapist, some couples are do talk like this and are openly hostile to each other during arguments, so clearly there are people who could benefit from reading this.

I also found the chapter about "partners who don't listen to the other partner" to be particularly gratifying because that was a point of contention in my last relationship that is blissfully absent in my current one. Turns out men who don't consider the opinions of their wives lead less happy marriages, WHO KNEW lol

Anyway 3.5 stars I guess? I was disappointed I wasn't able to learn more, but I think some people might get more out of this book than I did.
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I thought this was really good. A little sexist at times, but overall, he has a message of kindness and how to see through arguments instead of letting them fester. A good read for newlyweds I'd imagine :)

Highly recommend this if you’re in quarantine! Lots of interesting activities to do while stuck at home that are 1. Fun 2. Entertaining 3. Insightful

Excellent book to use in couples counseling.