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Some of this is very common sense, but seeing it written out in plain terms is very helpful.
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There's not a ton of retreading of prose here, which is apparently quite the feat in the self-help world. The beginning is denser in terms of ideas, and the book gradually opens up into a grab bag of techniques. That's where the meat is, but most of it is still to-do for me. The ending, on a hopeful note, was great counterpoint to a final chapter which is almost utopian.
Skip the introductory chapter....Gottman is a bit pompous there. But when he gets to the meat of the material he has good humor, good ideas, and lots of exercises.
Really eye opening and enlightening. I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and we’ve been doing most of what this book suggests. I would say we have a happy, fulfilling marriage and there’s still room for improvement (as with all things). This book has helped me be more conscious during disagreements with my spouse so things don’t get out of hand and one of us gets flooded. I’ve been able to keep more of a level head, see things from my husband’s perspective, accept his influence and just have more peace and fun at home. My only issue is that it’s solely focused on heteronormative relationship so keep that in mind if you’re searching for something LGBTQ+ friendly. I’d still highly recommend this book because it has great tips for communication and problem solving.
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Not bad for self-help. It's longer than it needs to be, maybe a little dated, but I like how Gottman brings it back over and over to seeing marriage as a partnership, a shared life. It seems an obvious point, but it's one that's easy to lose sight of and a good reminder, especially after reading books suggesting that some marriages work best if partners live in separate homes, lead separate lives and come together only when they feel like it.
Dr. Gottman is the leading expert in marriage and relationship psychology, so anything authored by him is well worth reading. My husband found and read this book first and then asked me to do the same. The principles in this book have really helped us communicate and avoid arguments. You would do yourself and your marriage a huge favor by reading this and anything else from Gottman as soon as possible.
I have been curious about this book for a long time and finally got around to reading it. It was interesting and useful, particularly the parts which contradict the usual marriage therapy advice. Turns out you don't need to resolve every conflict, and you especially don't have to do "active listening". Thank god! Because we suck at that.
The book was clear and readable, with lots of useful exercises which I'm sure we'll never get around to doing. I'm pretty sure reading this and following Gottman's advice would improve most marriages.
The book was clear and readable, with lots of useful exercises which I'm sure we'll never get around to doing. I'm pretty sure reading this and following Gottman's advice would improve most marriages.
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