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3.7 AVERAGE
3.7 AVERAGE
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
muscled through the first part then really liked the last two. the writing is p academic and can take some time to understand, but I think chewing on some of it made me appreciate it more. would recommend!!
I read the book with the intention to read interesting things on the art of loving but actually quite a lot is based on duality of genders and other weird ideas of family roles outdated in the 21th century to my opinion.
However, I was fascinated on the philosophical exploration on love affected by cultural and societal phenomena. Additionally, the psychological explanations on abnormal loving connections is also fantastical.
Overall many great principles on what differs loving from being narcissistic or otherwise improveable from the mind of a psychoanalyst.
However, I was fascinated on the philosophical exploration on love affected by cultural and societal phenomena. Additionally, the psychological explanations on abnormal loving connections is also fantastical.
Overall many great principles on what differs loving from being narcissistic or otherwise improveable from the mind of a psychoanalyst.
Combining threads of Freudian psychology, Christianity, Eastern religions, especially Buddhism, and classical philosophy, this is a philosopher's take on the topic of what is true love and their necessary conditions and the human behaviors conducive and ill suited for it.
The latter part of the book is a little too dense with Freudian type analysis of problematic models, narcissistic mom, dad obsession, womb obsession and can be duely skipped.
Quotes:
The awareness of human separation, without reunion of love is the source of shame, guilt, anxiety
The deepest need of man is to overcome the separateness
The unity by productive work is not interpersonal, by orgiastic fusion is transitory, by conformity fake, the full answer is love.
Symbiotic Union is liked mother and fetus, they are one. The passive form is masochism, the active domination
In contrast to symbiotic Union, mature love is Union under the condition of preserving one's integrity.
Spinoza- active and passive, actions and passions. In an action, man is free, the master of his affect. In the passion, man is passive, driven, the object of his motivations of which he is unaware. Envy jealousy greed ambition are passions, love in an action, only in freedom and never in compulsion
Giving is more joyous than receiving, not because it is a deprivation, in the act of giving lies the expression of my aliveness.
Love is the active concern for the life and the growth of that which we love. Where this active concern is lacking, there is no love.
Respect implies absence of exploitation. I want the loved person to grow for his own sake in his own ways and not for the purpose of serving me. I feel one with the other person as he is, not as I need him to be as an object for my own use.
Care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge are mutually Independent. They are syndrome of attitudes to be found in the mature person, the one who develops own powers productively, wants what they have worked for, given up narcissistic dreams of omniscience and omnipotence, who had humility based on inner strength which only genuine productive activity can give.
Unconditional love is one of the deepest longings of human beings
Love is not a relationship to a specific person, but an attitude, orientation of character to the world as a whole.
In order to be a good mother, one must be a happy person
An attitude of love towards oneself will be found in all those that are capable of loving others
The latter part of the book is a little too dense with Freudian type analysis of problematic models, narcissistic mom, dad obsession, womb obsession and can be duely skipped.
Quotes:
The awareness of human separation, without reunion of love is the source of shame, guilt, anxiety
The deepest need of man is to overcome the separateness
The unity by productive work is not interpersonal, by orgiastic fusion is transitory, by conformity fake, the full answer is love.
Symbiotic Union is liked mother and fetus, they are one. The passive form is masochism, the active domination
In contrast to symbiotic Union, mature love is Union under the condition of preserving one's integrity.
Spinoza- active and passive, actions and passions. In an action, man is free, the master of his affect. In the passion, man is passive, driven, the object of his motivations of which he is unaware. Envy jealousy greed ambition are passions, love in an action, only in freedom and never in compulsion
Giving is more joyous than receiving, not because it is a deprivation, in the act of giving lies the expression of my aliveness.
Love is the active concern for the life and the growth of that which we love. Where this active concern is lacking, there is no love.
Respect implies absence of exploitation. I want the loved person to grow for his own sake in his own ways and not for the purpose of serving me. I feel one with the other person as he is, not as I need him to be as an object for my own use.
Care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge are mutually Independent. They are syndrome of attitudes to be found in the mature person, the one who develops own powers productively, wants what they have worked for, given up narcissistic dreams of omniscience and omnipotence, who had humility based on inner strength which only genuine productive activity can give.
Unconditional love is one of the deepest longings of human beings
Love is not a relationship to a specific person, but an attitude, orientation of character to the world as a whole.
In order to be a good mother, one must be a happy person
An attitude of love towards oneself will be found in all those that are capable of loving others
this book feels like namjoon, i like namjoon so i like this book as simple as it is (i actually love joon i just wanted this to ryhme)
ericc fromm gercekten harika bir iş çıkarmış ortaya. kapitalist bir düzende (hiçbir şey de değişmemiş yahu) insanın sevgisibin zorluğunu işlemiş ama bunu o kadar cok boyutlu yapmış ki okuyucunun da kendi hayatındakş sevginin boyutunu düşünmeye itiyor. non-fiction sevmeyen insanların dahi gayet beğenerek okuyacağına emin olduğum bir kitap. sevgi hayatımızda baska duygular tarafından geriye atılıyor toplumun bunu sadece güçsüzlerin ve cocuklsrın hissettiği bir duygu olduğu kanısını bize dayatmasıyla ama aslında sevgi (herkese ve her şeye duyduğumuz) bizi hayatta tutsn şeydir ve bir şeyi sevmek her şeyi sevmektir. bunlar belki bizde olan düşüncelerdir ama bazı kitapların harika yanı odur, tüm bu düşüncelerle bir demet yapıp bize vermek ve bu o kadar hosuma gitti ki!!
namjoonun düşüncelerini içinde görmek harikaydı,, bastaki sözümde saka yapmıyordum… ÖNERDİĞİN İÇİN TESEKKURLER JOON!!
ericc fromm gercekten harika bir iş çıkarmış ortaya. kapitalist bir düzende (hiçbir şey de değişmemiş yahu) insanın sevgisibin zorluğunu işlemiş ama bunu o kadar cok boyutlu yapmış ki okuyucunun da kendi hayatındakş sevginin boyutunu düşünmeye itiyor. non-fiction sevmeyen insanların dahi gayet beğenerek okuyacağına emin olduğum bir kitap. sevgi hayatımızda baska duygular tarafından geriye atılıyor toplumun bunu sadece güçsüzlerin ve cocuklsrın hissettiği bir duygu olduğu kanısını bize dayatmasıyla ama aslında sevgi (herkese ve her şeye duyduğumuz) bizi hayatta tutsn şeydir ve bir şeyi sevmek her şeyi sevmektir. bunlar belki bizde olan düşüncelerdir ama bazı kitapların harika yanı odur, tüm bu düşüncelerle bir demet yapıp bize vermek ve bu o kadar hosuma gitti ki!!
namjoonun düşüncelerini içinde görmek harikaydı,, bastaki sözümde saka yapmıyordum… ÖNERDİĞİN İÇİN TESEKKURLER JOON!!
informative
slow-paced
I loved this book. Each sentence contains so much information and just gets to the core of things. I will definitely reread in the future as I'm sure I didn't take it all in in the first go around. I love how he is able to summarize in depth observations in a very honest way.
I picked this up because I wanted to read about romantic love and unrealistic lofty expectations, but overall it was too God heavy for me. Some parts were totally nonsensical and so confidently written, (no works cited)?? This is why I avoid books that were published too long ago!
informative
slow-paced
Why I chose to read this:
I came across a copy of this book, and honestly, the color and minimalist cover caught my attention. I did a quick search and read interesting reviews. This edition wasn’t actually available in the Philippines a few years back so I decided to get it. I picked it up this month (after two years) because I thought it would be fitting to read a book about love during the ~love month~.
What I like about this:
At first, the book felt a bit dragging. I felt like I was reading a required text for a Philosophy class. However, I became more intrigued when Fromm started explaining that love is an art—and, like other forms of art such as painting and sculpting, it can be learned through theory and practice. The book is mostly theoretical, referencing early philosophers, mostly Western, but it also touches on Eastern philosophy and the Bible. Despite all the ideas presented, love is shown to be far from easy. After all, what isn’t difficult when it requires discipline, concentration, and patience, as Fromm argues are necessary to practice the art of loving.
I wouldn’t say I particularly “liked” this book, and it’s hard to pinpoint specific parts I enjoyed. But I also wouldn’t say that it wasn’t worth my time. It echoes the old adage that love isn’t just about falling in and out of it; it’s a challenge and “not a resting place,” as Fromm states. Love requires effort — and it requires even more effort in modern society, where man seemingly transformed itself into a commodity.
Would I recommend this book?
I’m honestly not sure. I understand why some people disagree with much of what’s written in this book, but I also understand why others praise it. The book is short, so if you’re curious about love and willing to explore Fromm’s perspective, this should be one of your reads.