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3.7 AVERAGE
3.7 AVERAGE
slow-paced
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
slow-paced
Content Warnings
Minor: Homophobia
informative
reflective
slow-paced
informative
reflective
medium-paced
I agree with some of the reviews stating that this book feels quite outdated, especially due to its homophobic and queerphobic views. Some parts made me frown—why define love in such a narrow way, as if only a man and a woman are capable of experiencing it? I usually wouldn’t care for a man’s opinions. Moreover, the comparison of love to commodities and economics comes across to me as a shallow perspective. There are a few points worth noting, however, particularly the discussions on active love and the productivity of love. Those concepts were the main reason I picked up this book in the first place, and they remain the only aspects I fully acknowledge as addressing something society often tends to overlook.
Abgesehen vom Mann - Frauenbild immer noch gültig.
Im Vergleich zu 1956 ist unsere Gesellschaft wohl noch oberflächlicher, der Informationsfluss enorm und der Einzelne verkümmert und ist kein Künstler in der Liebe
Im Vergleich zu 1956 ist unsere Gesellschaft wohl noch oberflächlicher, der Informationsfluss enorm und der Einzelne verkümmert und ist kein Künstler in der Liebe
challenging
emotional
medium-paced
emotional
reflective
relaxing
medium-paced
Es un libro que voy a tener al lado de mi cama para reeler cuando sea necesario.
Hmmm i get the point he was trying to make. To my surprise i don’t hate the book
One quote that resonated with me;
Immature love says “ I love you because I need you”
Mature love says “ I need you because I love you”
Think about it
One quote that resonated with me;
Immature love says “ I love you because I need you”
Mature love says “ I need you because I love you”
Think about it
There are some truly fantastic things in this book. I particularly loved the section on meditation, his argument about the incompatibility of capitalism and love, and his critiques of Freud’s theories of love and sexual satisfaction.
That being said, the first half of the book is tough to get through. It’s heteronormative, essentialist, and homophobic—which is unfortunate, given how well queerness and post-structuralism works with his ideas of post-capitalist communal love. It’s a relic of its times, but it still hurts the message and tone of the book. It would work much better cut down, focusing on the critiques of capitalism and the psychological fears that prevent us from achieving true union with another person through erotic love.
To bring it back to another thing I enjoyed, I’ll put a quote I enjoyed that proves why psychoanalysis is such a great lens to look at love through.
“while one is consciously afraid of not being loved, the real, though usually unconscious fear is that of loving. To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith.”
That being said, the first half of the book is tough to get through. It’s heteronormative, essentialist, and homophobic—which is unfortunate, given how well queerness and post-structuralism works with his ideas of post-capitalist communal love. It’s a relic of its times, but it still hurts the message and tone of the book. It would work much better cut down, focusing on the critiques of capitalism and the psychological fears that prevent us from achieving true union with another person through erotic love.
To bring it back to another thing I enjoyed, I’ll put a quote I enjoyed that proves why psychoanalysis is such a great lens to look at love through.
“while one is consciously afraid of not being loved, the real, though usually unconscious fear is that of loving. To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith.”