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3.47 AVERAGE
3.47 AVERAGE
2.5ish stars? I may change my mind.
Not nearly as laugh at loud funny as I was promised, but probably helpful in recognizing patterns in my own life that are preventing me from dating much.
Not nearly as laugh at loud funny as I was promised, but probably helpful in recognizing patterns in my own life that are preventing me from dating much.
slow-paced
I bought this book in 2020, when I was 24 and still a virgin with almost zero dating experience, so i assumed I would be the very targeted audience for this book? It’s taken me nearly three years to get through and is more insufferable than ever. Maybe that’s because I’ve changed a lot, even though I still haven’t had a “”boyfriend,”” but I also think the description and title isn’t really indicative of what the book discusses.
Like, she had college makeouts and went to frat parties and had what seems to me like a pretty normal college experience without sex or a serious boyfriend, which happens to a lot of people.
Most egregious for me is the idea that she’d never had a date by 25…. A significant portion of this book was her talking about dates she had been on, which was annoying to me three years ago, and still annoying to me now, given the entire premise of the book.
Oh and she also says that something is the FIRST time she ever felt bad about herself - at age 24 - which is theeeeee least relatable shit I have ever heard in my life. Must be nice, though!
Like, she had college makeouts and went to frat parties and had what seems to me like a pretty normal college experience without sex or a serious boyfriend, which happens to a lot of people.
Most egregious for me is the idea that she’d never had a date by 25…. A significant portion of this book was her talking about dates she had been on, which was annoying to me three years ago, and still annoying to me now, given the entire premise of the book.
Oh and she also says that something is the FIRST time she ever felt bad about herself - at age 24 - which is theeeeee least relatable shit I have ever heard in my life. Must be nice, though!
emotional
funny
hopeful
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
Content Warnings
Moderate: Mental illness, Misogyny, Alcohol
Minor: Drug use, Sexual content
I just have to write a review of this book because I feel a kinship to the author. I've have such similar experiences throughout my life and while I have not quite gone 25 years, some of the thoughts and statements she makes in this book could have been pulled straight from my own life. I loved that she wrote the book as though she was talking to a friend. I feel that I could have been friends with her, easily, and we could have bonded over our lack of experience and other unconventional interests. I hate that she (and I) feel that because of our interest in those unconventional things are a cause of our perpetual singleness. Why can't the people who think that is adorable and interesting flock to us? And having recently started online dating I absolutely agree with, it's made me realize, similar to her realizations throughout the book, that which I'd love to be in love, I'm good at being single and I'm not really looking for someone who I think is "fine." I also had a similar realization to the one that the authors friends Rylee had towards the end. In being single, I am free, to travel, to change jobs, to essentially do anything, and as the author said, I've always had the freedom, I've just sort of learned how valuable that really is, and this book just helped me to reaffirm it.
I was expecting this to be a lot whinier, but was very pleased to find much of it to be genuinely just funny, without any judgment being passed. I did also spend a lot of time noting how much tamer my own college years (in particular) were.
I really, really loved this book, because I really, really related to it. There are probably people that don't like this book because they couldn't relate to it, and that's fair, but I'm gonna be straight-up and say mostly this got a five star rating from me because of how relatable it was. A lot of the things that Katie Heaney talked about were so similar to thing I've done or said and ways that I've felt that this book made me feel like someone else gets it - it made me feel less alone in a society that puts a lot of emphasis on romantic relationships and it made me feel much better about the fact that I haven't had a significant other or gone on dates and whatnot. I also really enjoyed the writing in this book. The voice was very chill and laid-back and like she was talking to her friends, which suited the subject matter perfectly.
I know the premise of this book SEEMS shallow. And okay, yes it is. But it's wholly entertaining and a really interesting look her story, which is increasingly rare but not unrelatable. The book read as though Heaney were confiding in one of her friends of her relationship status, which made it light and fun.
I actually enjoyed this book! Katie is funny! And I actually understand her story. It resonated with me. There are so many times when options EXIST, and it's totally possible for something to happen, but that's no reason to actually go through and start dating people.
If you think about it, there are so many factors that have to fall into place for relationships to work out. First, there has to be mutual attraction. Then the time and location have to be right. Then you have to communicate with each other. And you have to take a chance. More often than not, the people you like are not the people who like you (and vice versa).
I understood where Heaney was coming from in a lot of different aspects. Some people are lighthouses. Some people are magnetic. Others just can't seem to get there. It was interesting seeing from her perspective, although I'd love to see where she ends up in a couple years. Will she feel differently if she ever falls in love? Well, I guess only time (and experience) will tell.
I actually enjoyed this book! Katie is funny! And I actually understand her story. It resonated with me. There are so many times when options EXIST, and it's totally possible for something to happen, but that's no reason to actually go through and start dating people.
If you think about it, there are so many factors that have to fall into place for relationships to work out. First, there has to be mutual attraction. Then the time and location have to be right. Then you have to communicate with each other. And you have to take a chance. More often than not, the people you like are not the people who like you (and vice versa).
I understood where Heaney was coming from in a lot of different aspects. Some people are lighthouses. Some people are magnetic. Others just can't seem to get there. It was interesting seeing from her perspective, although I'd love to see where she ends up in a couple years. Will she feel differently if she ever falls in love? Well, I guess only time (and experience) will tell.
It's very rare for me to find a person with a similar dating life as mine. So, it was a pleasure to read this book. I found a little - if not a lot - of myself in Katie Heaney.
Katie Heaney is a hilarious author who writes about her failed attempts at romance. And what's so great about her writing is that it doesn't feel like you're reading a memory. It feels like you're reading as it's actually happening. Her writing feels so real where it feels like you're actually hanging out with her.
This book is a must read.
Katie Heaney is a hilarious author who writes about her failed attempts at romance. And what's so great about her writing is that it doesn't feel like you're reading a memory. It feels like you're reading as it's actually happening. Her writing feels so real where it feels like you're actually hanging out with her.
This book is a must read.
I have no idea when I started this audiobook, the only version of the book I could get ahold of through libraries (but it's definitely been months); because while it was enjoyable and very very funny, a) I'm bad at audiobooks and b) for me it was both relatably excruciating and excruciatingly relatable. So I took it in small doses from secondhand but knowing embarrassment, and also delight at not being alone.
I loved this book. I loved it so much. I identified so hard with this book. I want more books like this, discussing how even though it might feel strange that you're a girl of a certain age and you may not have been as romantically active as some of your friends. Books that talk about how IT'S OKAY that your friends are dating lots of people and attracting lots of people but you're not less of a person because you haven't dated anyone. I could say more, but I already did that a lot over on my joint book-club blog.