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Das Charisma-Geheimnis: Wie jeder die Kunst erlernen kann, andere Menschen in seinen Bann zu ziehen
Olivia Fox Cabane
3.73 AVERAGE
152 reviews for:
Das Charisma-Geheimnis: Wie jeder die Kunst erlernen kann, andere Menschen in seinen Bann zu ziehen
Olivia Fox Cabane
3.73 AVERAGE
ten little cheerleaders yelling "presence! power! warmth!" but alternately gushing about the importance of breathing and mindfulness.
Worthwhile read. Mostly revision, but plenty of new small tips that I'm trying out.
I was partly delighted and partly sheepish when midway through I remembered that the virtual people in Sims 4 also read books about charisma. There weren't a lot of new things here, and I think it's information most adults (or anyone who ever met Bill Clinton) know. The problem isn't the knowledge, the problem is the consistent exhausting implementation of something that doesn't necessarily feel authentic. Still, I enjoyed listening to the audiobook, and I might be an interesting book for young adults to start being more mindful of their interactions with others.
Very practical advice, with plenty of exercises for building persuasion muscles. Not sleazy, which is key.
From the cover: "What if charisma could be taught?" Well, the appearance of it can be anyway, according to this book. And if you're looking for tips on business, political--thus maybe explaining the frequent references to Bill Clinton?--etc. relationships, this book may help. But it'd be nice if there were a disclaimer on the front (or at least the back) cover explaining that this is a BUSINESS/POLITICS ONLY book, in other words, sell more [whatever it is you sell], get raises/promotions, get elected. If you were looking for help with "ordinary" social relationships, however, you won't find it here. For instance, from the book: "...to gain an instant charisma boost in conversation: Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of your sentences." (And this is repeated at least once more.) Hmm...maybe this--along with the fact that Kim Kardashian has also popularized it—explains the prevalence in the last few years of people (espec. those under 40) using that darn, irritating (fingernails scratching a chalkboard), pitched-too-low, raspy, nasally thing with their voice. And it isn't a brand new idea; back in the 80s or even before, people would imitate the "New York Honk", as they called it back then, the way people from the upper-class areas of NY spoke (think Meryl Streep, Wm. F. Buckley, etc.) spoke. Now, it's called the "Vocal Fry" by the voice coaching industry & any vocal coach worth her/his salt will tell you that doing it without the right vocal training can permanently injure your vocal cords. So unless you grew up in that particular part of NY, or your vocal cords are just worn out from old age or years of smoking, it sounds phony & irritating & will do the opposite of helping you socially. (And I wonder how helpful it is in the business world too; imitating a Kardashian will help you get a raise?)
A step-by-step guide to up your charisma- no matter if you are a wallflower or a star, this book will help you boost your charisma levels to the next level.
These are the main points that stuck with me:
1. Charisma are of 3 types: Presence, Power, and Warmth.
2. Maintain eye contact to create deeper connection with your audience or the person you are talking to.
3. Visualization is the secret weapon of top performers and presenters.
4. Imagine everyone you meet has angel wings. You'll treat them better, which in turn, increases your charisma.
5. Be the big gorilla of the room. Do not be afraid to take more space and demand authority.
6. Smile even while taking on the phone. It makes a huge difference.
7. Pay full attention to the person you are with. Do wait for your turn to speak. Just Listen.
8. Stop using fillers while speaking and playing around with your fingers during a meeting or waiting. It shows that you are tensed or uncomfortable.
9. No more lousy handshake.
10. Make your everyday interaction a game to practice your charisma skills.
These are the main points that stuck with me:
1. Charisma are of 3 types: Presence, Power, and Warmth.
2. Maintain eye contact to create deeper connection with your audience or the person you are talking to.
3. Visualization is the secret weapon of top performers and presenters.
4. Imagine everyone you meet has angel wings. You'll treat them better, which in turn, increases your charisma.
5. Be the big gorilla of the room. Do not be afraid to take more space and demand authority.
6. Smile even while taking on the phone. It makes a huge difference.
7. Pay full attention to the person you are with. Do wait for your turn to speak. Just Listen.
8. Stop using fillers while speaking and playing around with your fingers during a meeting or waiting. It shows that you are tensed or uncomfortable.
9. No more lousy handshake.
10. Make your everyday interaction a game to practice your charisma skills.
Definitely getting a reread. It did what I was told Dale Carnegie books would do.
One of the best self-improvement books I have read and delivers much more than just the charisma the title promises in terms of strategies for personal well-being and effectiveness. The key insight is of being mindful of three dimensions of your personality: Warmth, Presence and Power and advocates techniques from a wide range of disciplines and traditions.
Simple to understand, well laid out with a smattering of examples.