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4.25

I feel like this book had a pretty even balance of discussing the different experiences of asexual people and aromantic people and all the places where they might interact. I loved that there were discussion questions at the end of each section because it really got me to think about how I interact with the my own asexuality beyond just seeing my experience represented on the page. 

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informative reflective fast-paced

5.0

I am not really one for non-fiction titles, but I think it's important to read opinions and histories of the LGBTQIA+ community as someone who considers themselves a part of it and I'm really glad I read this! 

The way the author describes their own personal relationship with gender and sexuality really resonated with me and I  was comforted to read about. Even though what I consider my gender/sexuality is still a giant question mark, to know that it was relatable to so many people makes a difference. I also found it fascinating how many a-spec people tend to label themselves as bi/pan to avoid having to explain the intricacies of their relationship with their queer identity. I have already started recommending friends to read this once it's published!

I don't have a lot of standing on this front as a white person (but I also appreciated that in the discussion of religion Judaism was discussed!), but I think that Young did an excellent job touching on the subject of asexuality/aromanticism as seen through Western eyes and also how it plays into other cultures. Like many aspects of the queer community, it is often looked at through a white Western gaze and excludes POC experiences. 

Part of what I think helped with the way Young made sure to not only include the white perspective was by referencing other works or talks done by queer POC, like Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen. This has been on my reading list for a while now and it was referenced enough in this book that I will definitely make reading it more of a priority. 

Thank you to NetGalley for making this available in exchange for an honest review!

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