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If you find yourself trying to figure out routine and celebratory rituals that aren't based on a religion in particular, this might be a soothing book for you to read.

It's an easy read, conversational but philosophical, and presented in a way to make you think about your own rituals and why you do them in the first place.

Very nice of her to share her memories of Carl Sagan. Most of it seemed a bit simplistic, only because I am very familiar with the scientific, religious, and anthropologic topics discussed. The last chapter on Death was absolutely beautifully written. It was a lovely book, great ideas for secular rituals and why it is ok to practice old traditions.

When I got this book, I thought it would be a sort of self-help book for creating rituals in your every day life, a blueprint in how to do this. While it definitely was that to some extent, it did not give a simple recipe. Instead, Sagan pulled on different cultural versions of rituals, their similarities and differences. Throughout all the chapters, the rituals surrounded a specific theme - birth, death, the changing seasons. Through personal anecdotes and explanations of ritual symbolism, I felt the importance and the beauty in why these things are celebrated. Moreover, it inspired me to make my own rituals that embody my personal beliefs and viewpoints.
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Nothing revelatory but a cozy examination of how to make the passing of time and life more meaningful by ritual observances.
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A beautiful, thoughtful, and lovely book. I did not realize who the author was when I first pick this up, so it was a nice surprise when I began reading to know the content of this book comes down from a source I respect and a philosophical outlook that resonateswith me. While the book didn't turn out to be as specifically on-topic as I expected, I really was moved by the blending of personal stories, cultural traditions from around the world, philosophy, and science that Sagan discusses. This book is more of a discussion of Sagan's rituals and the accompanying rhythms of the natural world, but I thoroughly enjoyed it. She delicately takes the big ideas that numerous religious ceremonies and rituals originate from, brings them to their bare bones, and pulls out the core meanings to build up personal ways to celebrate the natural cycles of the Earth and our lives.

I would recommend this book to anyone looking to find a spark of meaning or inspiration in life whether you are religious, non-religious, or somewhere in between.
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This gem of a book is Sasha Sagan's first, and is billed as a look in to the rituals that make us all human but is really partly about the rituals, part memoir, and part tribute to her famous parents, Ann Druyan and the late Carl Sagan.

Not surprisingly, this book is a well written and entertaining, and Sagan's personality really shines through. While not religious, she is culturally Jewish and celebrates sacred holidays, even Christian ones such as Christmas, without acknowledging spirituality or the supernatural aspects. In true Sagan/Druyan fashion she examines these events through secular and scientific lens. Her appreciation for religious holidays is very relatable, I think many of us non-believers still enjoy them. We do because it is fun and it is a ritual we were brought up on. It keeps us connected with our loved ones and traditions. Heck, most of these holidays have secular origins and are based on natural events such as changes in seasons or milestones in person's life.

In sixteen chapters she begins with birth rituals and ends with death rituals and covers everything in between including the seasons, coming of age, independence days, weddings, anniversaries, periods, daily rituals, and so on. She explains the historical or scientific background of each and how they are of importance in the human experience, and personalizes the subject with anecdotes about herself, her family (husband and new baby daughter), her famous parents, and grandparents who emigrated to the US.

My edition contained a recommended reading list, a discussion guide, and a conversation with the author. The postscript was especially neat. She relates the experience she had when asked to play her grandmother Rachel in the Neil DeGrasse Tyson / Ann Druyan Cosmos reboot in a scene with a boy who played her father. They recreated one of her father's childhood memories. Great stuff.

I found this to be a really good read. Not all chapters were as equally interesting but I learned something in each one. I really enjoyed and related to the way she talked about a non-believer's view of death. There were some great quotes throughout. Like her parents, she has a knack for expressing the profound. This is one of my favorite quotes:

“No matter what the universe has in store, it cannot take away from the fact that you were born. You’ll have some joy and some pain, and all the other experiences that make up what it’s like to be a tiny part of a grand cosmos. No matter what happens next, you were here. And even when any record of our individual lives is lost to the ages, that won’t detract from the fact that we were. We lived. We were part of the enormity. All the great and terrible parts of being alive, the shocking sublime beauty and heartbreak, the monotony, the interior thoughts, the shared pain and pleasure. It really happened. All of it. On this little world that orbits a yellow star out in the great vastness. And that alone is cause for celebration.”