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lennie_reads's review
informative
medium-paced
Very interesting and raises lots of good points for both sides.
The medical advice and resources are american centric though.
The medical advice and resources are american centric though.
Content Warnings
Minor: Miscarriage and Infertility
elburton's review against another edition
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Before hitting my 30s it was rare that the women in my life or myself really gave the space and authority to sit with the overarching question, do I want to have kids? v. assuming that role and responsibility as expected or non-negotiable. Even more rare that people fully unpack and sit with the weight of that decision and the potential regret of choosing to do so or not do so and when and how and with whom, etc. Merle has been a game changer for me both personally and professionally. This is the most comprehensive and empowering read for the childbearing years, I have been recommending to all my perinatal clients, regardless of age/gender/etc. The best gift we can give ourselves, our partner, any potential future with or without children is the fully informed decision and choice. Merle gracefully and brilliantly guides this decision making process!
keniriemer's review against another edition
5.0
I now recommend this book to all my friends, even those who are 100% certain in their decision. The title is deceiving (although I am grateful it is because it’s why I started reading it), because while it is focused on helping you decide kids or no kids, it’s really more about what do you want your life to look like; preparing both you and your partner for the worst and the best, and the regrets and what-ifs in either choice. And for those preparing for parenthood, I think this book is such an excellent read/activity because there is so much deep digging and visualizations over many aspects of child rearing, and helping partners get on the same page before a child arrives.