Reviews tagging 'Excrement'

The Sign for Home by Blair Fell

4 reviews

purplepenning's review

adventurous emotional hopeful informative inspiring mysterious medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes

4.25

 There's a lot going on here, and the jaunty rom-com cover doesn't capture, well, any of it really. This isn't a rom-com or a romance, though there is a romance within it. It's the coming-of-age Bildungsroman tale of Arlo Dilly, a DeafBlind college-age man under the guardianship and care of a strict Jehovah's Witness uncle and a devout JW interpreter. It's also the coming-into-focus and coming-into-courage tale of Cyril Brewster, a gay middle-age ASL interpreter with an aversion to the tactile ASL required to communicate with DeafBlind clients. Their paths cross when Arlo attends an English language class at the community college and needs a second interpreter to help with it. He chooses Cyril because Cyril follows best practices for accessibility and actually tells Arlo what's going on and being said (his longtime interpreter takes a more selective/paternalistic approach). Despite his aversion to tactile, Cyril takes the contract, hoping it will finally give him the financial cushion he needs to move on and move out of Poughkeepsie. Through the class and through Cyril's interpretations, Arlo begins to see and understand more of the world, of his family, of his friends, of himself. Cyril's own story of self-discovery runs parallel to Arlo's.

This is genuinely one of the best books I've read — in fiction or nonfiction — for introducing a reader to the world and experiences of a person who is living a very different kind of life from the reader's. The story, at times heartrending, heart-pounding, and joyous, lagged in the middle for me and some of the JW content may be difficult to read for those who have experienced controlling religious groups. The writing, however, carried me through. The author does a beautiful job of conveying the voice and experiences of these characters and it's full of information about DDBHH (Deaf, DeafBlind, Hard of Hearing) communication. It also avoids, calls out, and subverts lazy tropes and stereotypes (including the savior trope) and avoids lapsing into inspiration p*rn. It is inspiring, though — it's an inspiring look at the kinds of discussions we should be having and services we should be expanding for our disabled communities. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Bullying, and Gaslighting

Moderate: Abandonment, Alcoholism, Blood, Death of parent, Forced institutionalization, Grief, Violence, Cancer, Confinement, Homophobia, Sexual content, Alcohol, Emotional abuse, Infidelity, Injury/Injury detail, Medical content, and Religious bigotry

Minor: Cursing, Police brutality, and Excrement

amberinpieces's review against another edition

adventurous emotional funny hopeful lighthearted reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Toxic relationship and Ableism

Moderate: Medical content, Religious bigotry, Bullying, Cursing, and Grief

Minor: Animal cruelty, Body shaming, Emotional abuse, Excrement, Fatphobia, Forced institutionalization, Gaslighting, Injury/Injury detail, Sexual content, Vomit, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Blood, Cancer, Death of parent, and Homophobia

bel017's review

challenging emotional medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

Arlo is DeafBlind, and sheltered in a bad way. He meets Cyril--a new (to Arlo) interpreter--when he starts a class to improve his English. Cyril teaches Arlo about his rights, and advocates for him. The blurb on GR/SG/the back of the book captures maybe the last quarter of the book. Needs a much better blurb.

I hadn't realised there was neglect, confinement and emotional abuse of a child on the page. I wouldn't have read it if I'd realised, so I skipped all those sections as best I could. Lots of fascinating, terrible and excellent information about the DeafBlind community, wrapped in a challenging but heartfelt story. By the time I realised the triggers I was in too deep and had to find out what happened.

I was shocked at how many parents of Deaf children don't learn sign language. The idea that they ... choose not to? Don't have the resources to? I don't understand. Everything was distressing.

I didn't realise this had been listed as a romance. It's not really a romance, it's a bildungsroman (coming of age story).

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Bullying, Ableism, Chronic illness, Emotional abuse, Religious bigotry, Forced institutionalization, and Grief

Moderate: Infidelity, Medical content, Abandonment, Alcoholism, Death of parent, Gaslighting, Medical trauma, Child abuse, Confinement, and Terminal illness

Minor: Fire/Fire injury, Homophobia, Cancer, Excrement, Outing, Blood, and Sexual harassment

uranaishi's review

adventurous challenging dark emotional hopeful inspiring reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment, Bullying, Ableism, Forced institutionalization, Grief, Emotional abuse, and Gaslighting

Moderate: Alcohol, Death of parent, Alcoholism, Chronic illness, Excrement, Police brutality, Religious bigotry, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Animal cruelty, Child abuse, Toxic friendship, Violence, Medical content, Outing, Terminal illness, Death, Infidelity, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Body shaming, Cancer, Colonisation, and Cursing

Minor: Suicide attempt, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Deportation, Physical abuse, Vomit, Blood, Child death, Xenophobia, Fire/Fire injury, Racism, Suicidal thoughts, Domestic abuse, Mental illness, Body horror, Injury/Injury detail, and Self harm