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Intermezzo by Sally Rooney

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Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

“You take conversation too seriously. Life isn’t just talking, you know.” 

The novel “Intermezzo” deeply redefines the meaning of vulnerable narrative point of views. Appropriately titled, the work follows characters in waiting, in between chapters—of relationships, of careers, of success, of leaning into what they most need for their lives. Much like many intermezzos I’ve also played musically, there is also a pervading sense of intimate melancholy, forced isolation, whiffs of dreams. We find deep dives into emotions and deep desperation—to be loved, to feel loved, to revisit love, or to reject love with other themes or melodies we think we must embrace.

This book is so well composed, yet my feelings were vacillatingly mixed. I definitely felt biases toward and against various characters in their hypocrisies, but found the varying point of views always intriguing. At times, the vivid intimacy element is haunting, at times painfully awkward, but I appreciate the author’s efforts to construct something human in all shapes of real.

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Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes

My favorite Sally Rooney to date. She beautifully captures the messy business of life and human relationships, with characters that are complex, flawed, and real.

Loved the themes of societal norms, pressure to conform and fear of other people's perceptions, age gaps and polyamory, grief and mental health, family dysfunction and strained relationships. There was a lot going on but everything was explored enough to satisfy.

Ivan was such a sweet, neurodivergent coded character--far from perfect but I loved him instantly. Peter took a bit more time/effort to connect with but he got to me eventually. 

The audiobook was perfectly narrated. 

"No one is perfect. Sometimes you need people to be perfect and they can’t be and you hate them forever for not being even though it isn’t their fault and it’s not yours either. You just needed something they didn’t have in them to give you. And then in other people’s lives you do the same thing, you’re the person who lets everyone down, who fails to make anything better, and you hate yourself so much you wish you were dead."

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Strong character development: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

I could write an essay on how toxic they all are and how this is definitely not Rooney denouncing anything. Btw we are not asking her to be a lesbian, just not to write her female characters like she hated women…

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Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

As always, Sally Rooney has made me simultaneously love (perhaps  too strong a word) and hate all of the characters and wonder - is everyone just walking through life inextricably confused and scared and making it all up as we go? 

This served as an important reminder that we can very easily get caught up in our own messy minds and create these insane realities for ourselves that merely serve as a platter of pain and delusion. When all it takes is an honest conversation to realize, there’s a whole world inside of everyone. so stop being so damn obsessed with yourself - okAYYYY! 

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Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
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Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

This book is wayyy to long for what it is. The story is slow and honestly not interesting enough for how long it is, it felt a bit like a chore to finish. I also found most of the characters pretty unlikeable both Peter and Ivan are pretty sexist and awful in their own ways. There were a few parts I found more interesting, but this book could be 200 pages shorter.

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