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Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers by Mary Roach

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e_claire's review against another edition

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wickedgrumpy's review against another edition

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3.5

Wasn't expecting a chapter to cover cannibalism so I guess that's where my squeamish line lies in the sand.  I knew some of the info about modern bioethics, and in contrast the historical ethics that were lacking respect, consent, and autonomy, so I was glad to hear that it is an emphasis in cadaver labs.

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caitlinpfry's review against another edition

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weebit's review

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4.75


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random19379's review against another edition

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4.0


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kapiolani's review

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tangleroot_eli's review against another edition

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Yet another nonfiction book I should've either read as soon as I put it on my tbr or deleted when I couldn't get to it right away. While some parts were laugh-out-loud funny, some of Stiff's humor has aged poorly. (And some of it I just plain didn't find funny: Roach knows how to set up the joke, but she doesn't always land the punchline.) Also, her 2021 edition epilogue did little to address the ways options for human remains have changed, even just in the US, since the book was first published in 2003.

Most alarming to me, as a death educator, is Roach's insistence that all decisions about a person's remains should be left to the survivors, rather than the deceased. This privileged view ignoresfollowing:
  1. Emotion. When a loved one has just died is a terrible time to make a lot of decisions. Even if you absolutely do not care what happens to your body after you die, even if you genuinely believe it should all be up to your survivors, you need to talk to them about it now (maybe especially if). Tell them that you have no advice for them, and that they need to be thinking about it now so they don't end up making choices they'll regret in those frantic days after your death. The vast majority of people are grateful to know what you would want for yourself. Most of us want to treat our loved ones' remains in ways that honor how that loved one lived and what they wanted for their body in death. Which brings me to...
  2. Identity. As a nonbinary Pagan, the thought of having no say over what happens to my body after I die is chilling. If my spouse is in charge of my disposition, no worries. If they're unavailable for some reason and it falls to my mom, I will be given a Presbyterian funeral where I will be misgendered and deadnamed throughout. I will be embalmed and buried in a metal coffin, in a vault, possibly in another state. Yeah, I'll be dead and won't know or care what's happening to my remains. But research has started to show that death rituals that erase aspects a person's lived identity, especially aspects that aren't valued by mainstream society, harms people who share that identity. If Mom needs to grieve in a way that erases my religious and gender identities, she can do that on her own time. But it shouldn't be the main funeral my trans and Pagan beloveds have to sit through, and it shouldn't be allowed to carry into other public remembrances of me (obituary, etc.) and certainly not into my disposition. There's a world of difference between "I won't make my husband fulfil my wishes for body donation, because he's squeamish" (although, for realsies, it's not like he would have to dissect her corpse himself) and "we should leave all disposition decisions up to the survivors and that never ends poorly." The fact that Roach seems to neither see nor care about that distinction soured the end of the book for me.

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christynhoover's review against another edition

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5.0

Not for the squeamish!! At one point I thought I might not finish it, it was so ghoulish at many places. But the author's dry humor helped me see it through to the final chapter where she confesses what she has chosen for her OWN cadaver.

Overall it was often thoughtful, often humorously irreverent, always a treasure trove for the curious. 

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yetilibrary's review

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2.5

I needed to read a book on a subject I knew nothing about. Cue Mary Roach's book about cadavers! The good: I did learn a lot about cadavers, and about science done with cadavers. The bad: sometimes there was an ick factor, and about half the time, the "ick" factor was an ethical one, rather than a body-horror one. The "more bad": there are a lot more animals in here than I was expecting, and a lot of those animals are ... not cadavers. Honestly, I wish I had picked a different book.

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