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A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara

629 reviews

peachy_gene's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional informative reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

I don't know what to say about this beyond what's already been said. This book ruined my life and offered a very helpful perspective on things in my own life. 

 I don't think this book hit me the way it seems to hit for people that don't listen to trauma for 40 hours a week [I'm a trauma therapist].There was nothing shocking about this book, however, the details are unimaginably difficult to read. I don't find Yanagihara's writing really all that beautiful- but this story is also really really ugly so I feel like that's on purpose? A devastating demonstration of love, and a reminder that sometimes love is not enough to make people choose to stay. 

This book [imo] asks readers to have hard conversations with loved ones and reminds us to make sure our loved ones know the role they play in our lives- it shines light on the fact that Even if they know, they may not be able to be that forever.  Sometimes we can't save people, especially from themselves, and especially from what the world has done to them. This book requires empathy and emotional shieldng to get through. 

I see a lot of people saying Jude was enabled and frustrating and I agree. But I do think Yanagihara's depiction of what it's like to never be able to see yourself through the eyes of those who love you is extremely well done . The story depicts how formative our earliest years are  in relation to how we trust, and form connection and this that translates into adult life. This novel is very much trauma a centered, and looks very deeply at the way trauma shapes our worldview, self perception and life outlook especially when we are leg to believe we are non-human undeserving of the healing it takes to seek trust and the company is others, to crave it desperately and have no idea what to do with that once we have obtained it. 

I didn't have any visceral reaction this except for the imagery which was rare. The depictions of abuse, are Even written in a very flat way. The only time I felt anything was when the pov was from Harold, but again- this feels intentional given the subject matter. I think we are perhaps meant to be emotionally disconnected, as Jude has had to be. 

I certainly didn't feel that this is the great gay novel by any means. But it is perhaps, an excellent case study for trauma's influence of the human existence if left untreated for a lifetime. It also lends excellent focus to the challenges when life is constant body horror, Jude's inability to connect with his even when he absolutely needed to, his constant act of rebellion towards the vessel he inhabits as punishment for sins he never committed; the impact of rage that is held within and never expressed.This commentary is something that is deeply felt, but extra so when a reader has a very specific set of traumas. 

It looks at codependency, [lack of] autonomy, illness, what it means to exist in a body when you couldn't consent to being born,  and asks what community is actually responsible for when a person has to be convinced that life really can be with living. This is not a hopeful story. It's sad and I can't ever recommend it to anyone. It never gets better. It has layers that I kept trying to find hope in, with no success. It's nothing but suffering, even happiness glimmers are temporary. I found it truly human at times, while deeply unbelievable at others, but mostly, I found it relatable and for that reason I will be talking about it with my therapist tomorrow. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment, Blood, Chronic illness, Domestic abuse, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Body horror, Body shaming, Medical trauma, Vomit, Car accident, Child abuse, Child death, Cursing, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Death, Suicide attempt, Eating disorder, Fire/Fire injury, Forced institutionalization, Gaslighting, Grief, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Gore, Homophobia, Kidnapping, Medical content, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Suicide, Terminal illness, Torture, Trafficking, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Violence, and Ableism

sapphicsav's review against another edition

challenging dark reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

This is the second time I read A Little Life, and yet it was somehow even more devastating and poignant than the first. The prose is captivating and flows effortlessly. Jude, and all of them, are desperately loveable and constantly relatable. The book is perfectly titled. It is, for better or for worse, an arresting chronicle of a whole human life. It is graphic and physically painful to read, but it is worthwhile. We love people and it matters even if it is not enough. Read this book. You will be devastated, but not disappointed.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Blood, Body shaming, Eating disorder, Grief, Mental illness, Sexual content, Suicide attempt, Suicide, Confinement, Death, Rape, Physical abuse, Medical content, Domestic abuse, Chronic illness, Injury/Injury detail, Trafficking, Pedophilia, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Body horror, Child abuse, Cursing, Forced institutionalization, Gaslighting, and Medical trauma

Moderate: Death of parent, Child death, Chronic illness, and Drug abuse

kkgarrett's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

Something I haven’t seen in the discourse around this book is that it’s about neglect.

Of course explicitly in childhood. Even into adulthood, though, people with the ability to help Jude stop just short of providing adequate mental health services. My hot take is that Andy is a bad doctor!

Also bisexuals exist!!! 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Domestic abuse, Trafficking, Physical abuse, Rape, Suicide, Violence, Pedophilia, Self harm, Child abuse, Eating disorder, Mental illness, Kidnapping, Adult/minor relationship, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, and Fire/Fire injury

Moderate: Vomit, Forced institutionalization, Medical content, Blood, and Addiction

aclancy974's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

I’m going to be thinking about this for a long time. In the best way. Memorable. Soulful. Moving. But please see content warnings, this could be potentially triggering or you may want to prepare to read differently ❤️

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Dysphoria, Death, Emotional abuse, Forced institutionalization, Medical content, Confinement, Gaslighting, Kidnapping, Medical trauma, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Torture, Trafficking, Violence, Child abuse, Eating disorder, Physical abuse, Blood, Domestic abuse, Excrement, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Toxic relationship, Drug use, Fire/Fire injury, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Self harm, Sexual content, Suicide, Abandonment, Addiction, Death of parent, Grief, Sexual assault, Vomit, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Car accident, Chronic illness, Drug abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Rape, and Religious bigotry

Moderate: Ableism

Minor: Islamophobia

caitlin_d89's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

Take notes, they will help so much at first. It will say “he did” / “he said” but the POV changes up without notice so knowing the characters will keep you from being confused. Hard book to read since it’s so emotional but such a good read. I felt connected to the characters, almost like a friend by the end so you really feel their feels. Triggers! 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicidal thoughts, Injury/Injury detail, Forced institutionalization, Sexual harassment, Sexual content, Dysphoria, Blood, Ableism, Medical content, Gaslighting, Confinement, Body shaming, Abandonment, Violence, Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Self harm, Torture, Suicide attempt, Physical abuse, Pedophilia, Emotional abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Sexual violence, Rape, Trafficking, Suicide, Mental illness, Gore, Domestic abuse, Chronic illness, Body horror, Incest, and Child abuse

Minor: Cancer, Car accident, Gaslighting, Addiction, Bullying, Gore, Biphobia, Vomit, Toxic friendship, Medical content, Death, Fire/Fire injury, Religious bigotry, Death of parent, Lesbophobia, Chronic illness, Confinement, Cursing, Incest, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, and Kidnapping

thetinysnail's review against another edition

dark sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Blood, Domestic abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Trafficking, Kidnapping, Death of parent, Vomit, Homophobia, Alcohol, Mental illness, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Dysphoria, Self harm, Suicide, Ableism, Medical content, Abandonment, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, Confinement, Pedophilia, Chronic illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual content, Torture, Forced institutionalization, Injury/Injury detail, Child death, Bullying, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Drug abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Sexual violence, Medical trauma, Body shaming, Child abuse, Violence, Stalking, Sexual harassment, Terminal illness, Drug use, Physical abuse, Eating disorder, Death, Car accident, Addiction, Alcoholism, Racism, Cancer, and Adult/minor relationship

dana_21857's review against another edition

adventurous challenging dark emotional hopeful inspiring mysterious reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

This book has got to be one of the best books I have ever read. I don't give out 5 stars easily. And almost never for fiction. By ten percent of this book, I knew what I held in my hands. The greatness. The raw, imperfect, human, unfair mirror that this book is. A mirror of life itself. 

A few days ago, I was at 50% then, I heard someone saying they wouldn't ever read this book, because they knew the plot and it's "trauma porn about gay men written by a woman". 

This description infuriates me and makes it so blatantly clear that she didn't know, not really, what this book is about.

I found myself relating to Jude in aspects no one should, yet many of us do.

The way these characters are written they feel so real, so complex, so human, that I checked several times if this really wasn't some kind of auto biography.

The writing is so beautiful, that I now don't dare to call myself a writer because I do not compare to what lies before me in that book. Most authors don't. 

The title couldn't be more fitting. It really is a little life. A life so many of us endure. 

It captures the depth, power and possibilities that human relationships hold beautifully. 

When I find the emotional capacity I'll read it again and annotate it.

Would I recommend this book to everyone? No, definitely not.

To experience this book the way it is meant to, the way I believe I have, is to feel the story without drowning in it.

Someone in the depths of their struggle with trauma, sh, eds or bipolar shouldn't read this.

This book is graphic, emotionally and also about the physical aspects. Just like life is. It doesn't censor. Just like life doesn't.

As someone who has been in therapy for all those topics over the last 6 years, I am shocked at how accurate it depicts mental illness, trauma, specifically dissesociation and cptsd and the addiction that sh provides. 

I feel deeply for Jude, and I see myself in him. Of how my life could've gone and could still go.

This book is as raw, unapologetic and unfair as life is and leaves us, the reader, aching, wondering, unbelieving.

This book is perfect in every way and I will forever be greatful to have experienced it. Looking forward to my second read.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Eating disorder, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Chronic illness, Rape, Mental illness, Suicide attempt, Kidnapping, Pedophilia, Death, Adult/minor relationship, Blood, Child abuse, Fire/Fire injury, Forced institutionalization, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Physical abuse, Self harm, and Sexual assault

rainreading's review against another edition

dark emotional inspiring sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Kidnapping, Medical content, Addiction, Emotional abuse, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Death of parent, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Excrement, Fire/Fire injury, Homophobia, Death, Domestic abuse, Forced institutionalization, Injury/Injury detail, Blood, Fatphobia, Gaslighting, Gore, Car accident, Grief, and Body shaming

delilah_reads23's review against another edition

The book feels like a roller coaster, not the one that excites but the one that makes you nauseous. The lows are very low, and the highs are very high, and pretty soon it becomes a predictable pattern. The author claimed she does not believe in therapy, and it shows. Also, just look at the triggers for this book

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Ableism, Death of parent, Forced institutionalization, Abandonment, Addiction, Cancer, Chronic illness, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Injury/Injury detail, Physical abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Blood, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Cursing, Death, Pedophilia, Religious bigotry, Self harm, Car accident, Child abuse, Child death, Confinement, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Grief, Mental illness, Rape, and Suicidal thoughts

miekss's review

challenging dark sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

This was a very tough read for its’ content and graphic descriptions. The writing style at times got a bit too descriptive in “filler story” but generally it made me want to keep finding out more and reading on. Jude experienced an enormous extent and frequency of traumatic things that in the second half I became numb to this/stopped being shocked and having an emotional reaction. However I thought the telling of his grief near the end was written so well. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Physical abuse, Suicide, Rape, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Mental illness, Self harm, Adult/minor relationship, Blood, Death, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence

Moderate: Car accident, Emotional abuse, Grief, Vomit, Medical content, and Forced institutionalization