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Lessons by Ian McEwan

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emotional relaxing slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: A mix
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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challenging dark emotional reflective slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: N/A
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

Grew to love it more as it went on. Found myself thinking a lot about it after I read it. 

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challenging reflective slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

Normally I love Ian McEwan, but I struggled to finish this one. Middle aged white male navel gazing. Fair enough. 

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Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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Plot or Character Driven: A mix
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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damianwayne's review

3.25
emotional reflective slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

I don’t think I’m the target audience for this book of I’m being honest. I haven’t lived enough life to recognise whether what McEwan is saying has a profound and real meaning or not. 

I don’t know if this being semi-autobiographical makes me like it more or not. It is still too suspended from his own life to make it particularly sentimental (although I was a bit emotional knowing that the dedication was to all his siblings, including his long lost brother), but it most certainly would not be anywhere near as cohesive without his real experiences. 

I feel like an awful person for saying that Roland’s experience with and the subsequent decades-long fallout from Miriam was the most interesting part of the book, but it’s true. Roland still cannot fully reckon with just how much damage her grooming of him had through the rest of his life, and seemingly he never does. I really hope Roland’s confusion and inability to separate (what he viewed as) love and her crime is just how unresolved it is and not McEwan saying it requires more nuance. Because it doesn’t. She was an paedophilic adult woman who groomed and sexually exploited her student from the age of 11. There is no leeway there. My concern is that by referring to them as, in a roundabout way, both complicit, McEwan is showing has not learned anything in the 21 years since Atonement was written where he called Lola and Briony just as complicit as Paul. The rapist and victim should never be presented as on equal standing in the matter. That makes me uncomfortable in rating this super highly.

However, I do believe Alessa’s transphobia is meant to be parodying JK Rowling and her insane black mould-driven rants. Thank you for that laugh.

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emotional reflective slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: A mix
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

Fell a bit flat for me

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emotional reflective slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: A mix
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: No

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mrlsdevos's review

4.0
emotional reflective sad slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

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emotional reflective sad slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

A beautifully composed book where the author uses words as an artist uses paints. But the subject matter is so vast and yet so insignificant and goes back and forth in time so much that it is not an easy read. I had to read it in increments of about 50 pages at a time if not, I think I would have fallen into a deep depression.

I found it unusual in that there are no overtly good or bad guys in this book despite there being a main protagonist - though there is this definite theme of the ramifications of his affair with his piano teacher (who could be seen as bad) that reverberates throughout his life. Equally interesting was all of Roland’s emotional trauma is inflicted by the three main women in his life (mother, abuser/teacher, wife) even though much of his emotional confusion probably originated from his father…

This book is also unusual in that world events are used as a form of dividers in the book which coincide with chapters of Roland’s life [WWII — The Suez Canal Crisis — Cuban Missile Crisis — Chernobyl — Sarajevo — Blair & New Labour Government — 9/11 — Enron — covid — Washington riots…].

After having finished reading “Lessons” the main questions I was left with were: What is the point of life? What lessons do we learn from living?

I would not recommend this for everyone since it is slow going and character driven and I’m not sure I liked any of the characters much but it does make you think.

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