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Who is an author you've loved the longest?
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One of mine is definitely Candace Bushnell. I devoured SEX AND THE CITY and LIPSTICK JUNGLE when they first came out and she become my first auto-buy author. While she hasn't written much recently, I was so excited to snag this co-authored book by her!
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This is def a total girl power book. A great introduction for YA readers into the world of equal rights and conquering the imbalance of societal gender roles. I thought the authors did a fantastic job of showing the raw side of being a teenager in high school.
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Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

'Rules for Being A Girl' certainly strikes a cord for females (anyone identifying as female) of any age. We will in a society, where we are now being told that we can achieve all of our dreams and that gender should not be a barrier - however, as highschool student Marin discovers, the truth is not as clear cut. In her school, there is a clear division between the 'rules' for the female and male students. Surprisingly, the female characters seem fairly immune to these double standards, right up until Marin finds herself, in the middle of a traumatic and difficult situation; is she responsible for Bex kissing her? Did she lead him on? What should she do next?

The response from the (supposedly) responsible school seems minimal and is aimed towards protecting their own. There is little care for the teenager in the middle of this whirlwind. It comes with some relief to hear the reaction of Marin's own parents - they are the few adults of the book to appear with some sense of common sense and point out to Marin, that her teacher is responsible for setting the boundaries and that she is actually the child in the scenario. While Marin may have behaved in a naive manner, it is Bex who has acted wrongly not her. I feel that this aspect of the story needed to be reinforced more strenuously and was relieved at the end when Bex was finally disciplined for his behaviour.

Her experiences with Bex, have helped Marin to view life differently and see the situations around her, ie the 'rules' as never before. Ultimately, she begins to grow up in many ways and to fight against the different forms of prejudice in her school.

Throughout the book, it is easy to dismiss Marin for her naivety, towards Bex. But, the characters displays a impressive level of personal growth and discovery in the novel. By the end of the story, I'm found myself cheering, 'Go Marin!'. Absolutely worth.

I received a free copy of this book from HarperCollins Teen via NetGalley in return for an honest review.
emotional reflective medium-paced
challenging emotional reflective medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: A mix
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: No

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hopeful sad fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: No

3.75/5

I’m glad there are approachable books discussing sexual predators, power dynamics, and feminism as I think they’ll be more likely to reach people and hopefully get them curious to explore more deeply. And to normalize the experience. I do wish, however, that the Gray love story had been left out of this. It was distracting and felt a little insulting - like readers wouldn’t be able to handle a young adult book about one girl’s assault and awakening to injustice without a side of romance. I wish publishers and authors had more faith in young readers. Having a romance story in every book aimed at female readers just seems to perpetuate some of the issues brought up in this book.
emotional inspiring fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character