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The first section was upsetting. The second even more so. Both were sort of one note characters whose behavior was at best unsympathetic and at worst unabashedly violent. The third section, narrated by the main character’s sister, was a refreshing and tender reflection on caring for a loved one in severe crisis while navigating one’s own low-grade (in comparison) traumas. I wished we could have heard more from her earlier in the timeline of the story, since she only narrates the tail end, and the text ends with them in an urgent transitional moment. Overall a very different reading experience from Kang’s other novel that I just read.
Moderate: Sexual assault
Minor: Eating disorder
Graphic: Eating disorder, Mental illness, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, Medical content
This book as a whole is a huge commentary on misogyny in South Korea & the way that the family dynamic is specifically set up to put women last. A woman can never just exist. She has to be someone's wife, daughter, sister, mother, etc. I burned with anger everytime Yeong-Hye's husband refused to call her by name & solely said "my wife." I actually don't think he ever called her by name once.
The misogynies that drown our two female main characters - especially Yeong-Hye - is suffocating & it broke my heart that sheer hatred for women was the only thing stopping Yeong-Hye from getting much needed preventative mental health care. Like these men don't like women. They don't even see them. They just exist to service them however they want & then throw them away. It's no wonder Yeong-Hye was doing everything she could to escape her current existence.
My favorite part of the book was the last bit where In-Hye is attempting to take care of Yeong-Hye in the mental ward yet she seems too far gone. Reading about Yeong-Hye's
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Medical content, Schizophrenia/Psychosis
I hated all of the characters, especially the male ones. Our main character, Yeong-hye, was nothing but an object to all of them. To her husband, someone to keep the house orderly. To her father, a punching bag. To her brother-in-law, an object of desire. I was, rightfully, uncomfortable reading about all of these men– intended I expect.
Typically I am alright when it comes to uncomfortable topics, and this book does not shy away from approaching any of them. However I found certain aspects to be completely unnecessary. The focus on Yeong-hye's breasts was on that particularly stood out to me. The descriptions vivid, detailed, however in terms of the plot held no significance.
I also found the changes in perspective between the characters to be jarring, especially with the time passing between each of them. I found it difficult to follow along when the perspective changed to both the brother-in-law and In-hye's. I understand that the point was to be disconnected from the characters, but despite this I struggled starting each perspective because I had no idea which character I was following. It completely threw me off and I had difficulty in following along until I knew who it was I was supposed to be following.
Overall I think this was a very ambitious novel, and for me it did not hit all of the marks. Partly due to the translation I presume, I found the writing to be quite disconnected from the source material in a way I cannot put my finger on. I also did not enjoy the open ending. I am just not a fan of those.
On a more positive level, I found certain quotes to be very beautiful, which brought my enjoyment of the novel up slightly. I think because certain descriptions in the final chapter were reminiscent of a song I love.
Graphic: Eating disorder, Mental illness, Rape
Moderate: Self harm, Sexual assault, Suicide attempt
Minor: Child abuse, Blood, Vomit
I would like to also mention that you cannot expect a ‘happy ending’ to this book, she was doomed from the beginning.
it was a great read for me. I would not recommend it to people though, could be a hard read for most.
Graphic: Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Infidelity, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Forced institutionalization, Medical content, Suicide attempt
Overall, I really liked the book for its strong parts on detailing Korean society, the role of women and the deterioration of Yeong-Hye. I feel for her because nobody cared to fully understand what she was going through and what her dreams were, they just wanted to use her for their own advantage, except maybe In-hye. I really like the writing style too, it emerses you into what the characters are thinking and feeling.
Overall, what brings it down for me is the mention of animal abuse in a dream was completely unnecessary and it didn’t add to the plot, imo. That’s one of the only dreams that gets shown, and I just feel like it could’ve been done in a better way yk?
Additionally what let it down was the whole Yeong-Hye fetish/sister-in-law trope. I understand why it’s there, it’s In-Hye’s husband’s motivation, but at times it kinda felt too weird…? I think that’s just me though.
I also thought that at the end when In-Hye’s husband sneaks in after they’ve broken up and rapes her and then never comes back was really weird? It didn’t add anything and I was genuinely confused on why it was there.
Overall, I enjoyed it, and would recommend to read, but uf you’re sensitive to animal abuse, rape etc, I wouldn’t.
Graphic: Animal cruelty, Animal death, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Torture, Vomit, Suicide attempt
Minor: Confinement, Gore, Blood
Graphic: Domestic abuse, Mental illness, Misogyny, Self harm, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt
Graphic: Gore, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship
Graphic: Gore, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Blood, Suicide attempt, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Sexual harassment
Graphic: Animal cruelty, Rape, Sexual assault