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It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover

99 reviews

imaginefishes's review against another edition

emotional medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

The first half of the book reads as an average YA fiction book, with the female protagonist lamenting her past and who is now being swept off her feet by the quintessential cool, suave asshole. Besides that, certain life events which happen to Lily feel a little too optimistic or unrealistic

(like the immediate success of her business, which she could afford to start, the fact Alyssa decided to walk in and employ herself while also happening to be Ryle's sister, and the fact that Atlas has become a successful restaurant chef and business owner).

But by the second half of the book, the portrayal of the domestic abuse scenes gain greater severity, and showcases the flawed thinking Lily had held towards domestic abuse. Yet, it also shows a flawed portrayal of domestic abuse, and flawed reasoning behind causes and effects of domestic abuse

(people don't often stay in domestic relationships because they love their partner too much)

. I find the relationship between Lily and Atlas to be the best part of the book (although sometimes cheesy and YA-like).

This book was not bad , but it was short of the spectacle as praised by BookTok. The language felt flat, the tone immature, and it's themes underdeveloped. Also, there are wayyyy too many mentions of sex. But it was still semi-enjoyable to read.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Injury/Injury detail and Domestic abuse

Moderate: Sexual content, Blood, Sexual assault, Death of parent, Physical abuse, Adult/minor relationship, Cursing, Pregnancy, Rape, and Sexual violence

Minor: Suicide attempt, Alcohol, Bullying, and Panic attacks/disorders

sldibened's review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? N/A
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Bullying, Infertility, Suicidal thoughts, Death of parent, Sexual content, Child death, Domestic abuse, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Pregnancy, Child abuse, Death, Grief, Violence, Addiction, Alcoholism, Injury/Injury detail, and Cursing

camdentomlinson's review against another edition

sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Toxic relationship, Physical abuse, Rape, Death, Suicidal thoughts, Death of parent, Violence, and Abandonment

Moderate: Toxic friendship and Bullying

celina_2604's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual harassment, Toxic relationship, Violence, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Rape, Gaslighting, Hate crime, Alcoholism, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual violence, Bullying, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, and Sexism

Moderate: Addiction

Minor: Pregnancy, Stalking, Sexual content, and Toxic relationship

lilybear3's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

0.25

 

**This is the first and only book of Colleen Hoover’s that I will read, due to problems surrounding her son’s harassment to a minor, her response to that, and her romanticizing abuse in her writing.  If you’d like more information, I encourage you to research.  I picked up this book at the library (no money given) so I could formulate my own opinion about a book and author that skyrocketed in popularity.  Hopefully, I wrote this review in a way that is understandable.

Into the review: 

I rarely take notes while reading books, but this one was so terrible, I almost did a page-by-page commentary because I couldn’t believe what I was reading. 

The names in this book are just wild.  Lily Blossom Bloom? Ryle?

Emerson Dory?? TF<spoiler/> 

The writing is bad for a number of reasons.  I’m so confused by the choice of randomly italicized sentences.  The story is told in first person, so it’s already an internal monologue!  It will be going relatively well and then Hoover drops a sentence that just takes you out of it. There are also unrealistic things that happen, like

they very last-minute wake everyone up to take a midnight flight to vegas.  I guess anything is possible when you make rich characters.

I felt like this was (and is) written for straight white people who think certain scenarios or dialogue are romantic when they’re actually cringy. 

About 130 pages in, something finally happens, but it is the dumbest scene I have ever read. 

there is no way Ryle was that drunk to grab a pan out the oven with no oven mitt. Secondly, why are they having sex WHILE HIS HAND IS BLEEDING A LOT? I don’t understand because he’s a SURGEON.

 

Talking about characters

As far as characters go, everyone in this book is unbearable, except for her mom at Atlas.  While Atlas is sort of written with a savior complex, it is completely forgivable due to how much I hated Lily, Ryle, and Allysa.  Best Atlas quote: “it wasn’t pity sex, I know I was there.” 

I hate miscommunication. There isn’t really the miscommunication trope, it’s that realistically, you would talk with your partner about having kids, moving in, etc. BEFORE marrying. 

Told in Lily’s perspective, it was difficult to read in that I had no idea why she was doing or saying the things she did.  She redeemed herself a little and I even felt proud of her for a moment, then continued to disappoint me.  The best chapter of the books is when Lily asks for help from her mother, her mother is affirming and supportive 

The ending: 

The epilogue ties up loose ends but leaves it open for a sequel with her new relationship with Atlas. I’m confused that she didn’t want her daughter to be around Ryle and his temper but is letter her have time with him?

This is a general statement, but I wanted more Atlas in this book, he just disappeared in the last 1/3 of the book. 

Final thoughts:  @thecalvinbooks on TikTok said it best, Colleen Hoover books are for people who don't read, they're not written well.  People who are getting into reading shouldn't read them because they won't want to read anything that isn't this type of writing. 

Reading articles on my own, I know Colleen Hoover is problematic in that some of her books are marketed as romance even though there are abusive relationships and abuse scenes.  One article wrote that typically romance novels are based around consent, Hoover romanticized abuse and homelessness in this book.  I also feel like the abuse scenes were used for shock and propelled the story, leaving readers on edge to see what happens next, I won't lie, I felt this myself.  She has a savior complex with her stories where a man will come and save the woman in distress and there is no representation whatsoever.  It is a book written by a white woman, for white women.

The author’s note outlines that this story was based on her experience watching her father abuse her mother. She says it was hard to write,

making Ryle (a character she loved) be abusive and Lily (also loved) continue to stay

, writing how hard it is the break the cycle of abuse and why victims stay. There are two resources for domestic violence and homelessness listed in the back of the book. 

While I can sympathize with her experience and know that versions of Lily and Ryle’s relationship exist in the real world, I cannot recommend this book to people without sharing all of the trigger warnings, which should have been in the beginning of this book.  Periodically, she has a monologue on abusive relationships, why some victims choose to stay, and why the cycle of abuse is hard to break.  I appreciated it at times, but it did not make up for the fact that this book was propelled by those triggering scenes. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Vomit, Sexual content, Violence, Abandonment, Alcohol, Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, Injury/Injury detail, Domestic abuse, Cursing, Gaslighting, Pregnancy, Physical abuse, Medical content, and Alcoholism

Moderate: Suicidal thoughts, Bullying, and Stalking

Minor: Sexual assault, Death, Infidelity, Rape, and Death of parent

_zara's review against another edition

challenging emotional inspiring medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Plot
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Physical abuse, and Domestic abuse

Moderate: Pregnancy

Minor: Alcohol, Vomit, Bullying, Child abuse, Child death, and Suicidal thoughts

erinkathleen_'s review against another edition

fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.0

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Content Warnings

Minor: Bullying, Domestic abuse, and Alcohol

lindsayvale's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Blood, and Rape

Moderate: Bullying

Minor: Child death

cdoubet's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Gun violence, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Vomit, Classism, Death, Gaslighting, Grief, Physical abuse, Toxic relationship, Abandonment, Alcohol, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Medical content, Mental illness, Rape, Suicide, Violence, Alcoholism, Blood, Child death, Cursing, Infertility, and Panic attacks/disorders

Moderate: Pregnancy and Death of parent

Minor: Bullying

jupiterlee's review against another edition

I will admit that I put this on my list because I have heard sooo much about it. It seems to be all that anyone could talk about. 

However, it really was not for me and I did not finish it. I think I realised very quickly that it was not a book that I was going to struggle with when Ryle told Lily he wants to fuck her after just meeting her: fuck-boy characters are ones that I just do not get along with. Now, saying this I do not mind smut and I don't mind a character being out there, but instantly I was questioning the intent of the book, and then when Ryle was described as "a person who does bad things", I knew there was going to be things that I did not like. 

I really do think that this book should come with trigger warnings as some of the things do come slightly out of the blue, and some of the things he does is so relevant to some abusive relationships today that it can it range from subtle triggering to major triggers. I agree with book being written to highlight issues and being a medium for people to educate themselves on trauma etc but this is not a book that I feel does that, and I believe that it just uses trauma in a unproductive way. 

if you are going to read this book, I really do suggest having a good read at the triggers before just in case! 
**Domestic Abuse, Physical Abuse, Toxic Relationship, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Rape, Relationship with a Minor, Death of a Parent**

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Gun violence, Grief, Pregnancy, Rape, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Violence, Injury/Injury detail, Misogyny, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Domestic abuse, Bullying, Death of parent, Suicidal thoughts, Blood, Death, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Abandonment, Alcohol, Child abuse, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, and Sexual violence