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challenging reflective medium-paced

2.0

I read this book because it was recommended to me by several people. After reading it, I have no idea why. I feel like I must have missed some major pieces that make this book good. I can vaguely understand why at the time it might have been big. The entire book reads like a basic white woman post on feministing.com from the early 2000s (which it kind of is). She takes aim at a lot of feminist and queer topics I myself have criticisms of, but it's a lot of swings and no hits. 

There are some good pieces (as in maybe some paragraphs) that I liked. I didn't find any issue with her intrinsic model, but it's hard to say because there wasn't a lot of actual content or theory around it. As soon as the author writes something with substance, she moves on quickly to some of the most heinous and bizarre sentences I've read. 

I almost DNFed at chapter 15, where the first few sentences are (SERIOUS content warning)
"When I was a child, I was sexually assaulted, but not by any particular person. It was my culture that had his way with me."
A disgusting and triggering analogy to compare it to that. I  do not understand how you can write so much about how upsetting early 90s transphobic movies were, then turn around and compare yourself to a
child sexual abuse victim
like that. The rest of the chapter is equally bizarre. 

She's frequently out of her wheelhouse with child development theory (she has a phD in genetics), and doesn't provide any sources for most of her claims about childhood "masculinity."

I  saw vague criticisms on GoodReads that she is dismissive of genderfluid and NB people, and I sort of saw some slight bits of that reading the book. When I got to chapter 20 though, holy god. Be forewarned it's a bit unhinged.

It's a frustrating book in that I see the outlines of something that could have been okay, but just fell short. It was worth it in that I was questioning my own conceptions of gender while reading it, but there just has to be better out there in 2024.   

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stevia333k's review against another edition

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informative medium-paced

5.0

This book filled me in on what cis people were assuming back when I was a kid. It also named a few dynamics I had forgotten about.

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