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kaleighcurran's review against another edition
2.25
My perception of the author is that she is kind of a mess as a person. Even though a lot of the book is describing her therapy sessions. The entire reading experience was akin to seeing a horrific car crash. Just awful, but you want to see what happens in the end. I also interpret the word “marriage” by definition to mean that you are faithfully committed to one person for the rest of your life, so “open marriage” to me is an oxymoron, but different strokes for different folks I suppose. This was a “window” book for me and definitely not a “mirror” book.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content, Infidelity, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Emotional abuse and Alcohol
caseythereader's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
reflective
medium-paced
3.75
Thanks to Doubleday Books for the free copy of this book.
- I’m going to be honest, I’m torn about MORE: A MEMOIR OF OPEN MARRIAGE. On the one hand, I’m glad this book is out there, talking about alternative marriage and relationship structures, and how to think outside the norms we’ve been raised with. However, a lot of this book is practically a guide for how not to do nonmonogamy.
- Over half of this book is the author making a series of bad decisions and not really exploring why she wants to do this at all aside from her husband pushing it. Which, fine, I don’t expect someone to just jump perfectly into problem-free open marriage. But she does no research, no seeking out of poly spaces, people, or ideas (someone has to give her a copy of The Ethical Sl*t) and then she wonders why she’s repeatedly unhappy. Her husband is a jerk about a lot of it, too, I can’t even get into that here because he made me so mad.
- On the other hand, what a fabulous example of the benefits of therapy this book gives us!
- Also, I do feel bad being so judgy. This was her experience and she’s just relating it to us. I guess I’m glad this book exists - I feel like for mainstream publishers to put out books on this topic we have to get through the rich straight white people doing it badly memoirs first.
- I’m going to be honest, I’m torn about MORE: A MEMOIR OF OPEN MARRIAGE. On the one hand, I’m glad this book is out there, talking about alternative marriage and relationship structures, and how to think outside the norms we’ve been raised with. However, a lot of this book is practically a guide for how not to do nonmonogamy.
- Over half of this book is the author making a series of bad decisions and not really exploring why she wants to do this at all aside from her husband pushing it. Which, fine, I don’t expect someone to just jump perfectly into problem-free open marriage. But she does no research, no seeking out of poly spaces, people, or ideas (someone has to give her a copy of The Ethical Sl*t) and then she wonders why she’s repeatedly unhappy. Her husband is a jerk about a lot of it, too, I can’t even get into that here because he made me so mad.
- On the other hand, what a fabulous example of the benefits of therapy this book gives us!
- Also, I do feel bad being so judgy. This was her experience and she’s just relating it to us. I guess I’m glad this book exists - I feel like for mainstream publishers to put out books on this topic we have to get through the rich straight white people doing it badly memoirs first.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Cursing, Sexual content, Alcohol, Chronic illness, Infidelity, and Medical content
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