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I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen
5.0
This is exactly that kind of resource I was searching for. While doing some casual Google research on how to communicate better with people I stumbled upon a short and sweet article on Michael Sorensen's website about how to validate someone when you don't agree with them (something I was specifically looking for advice on). I immediately ordered his book after reading the article and its advice.
I think that I'm a good listener, but there is a big difference between listening and understanding, and VALIDATING. That's the key, and this book does an excellent job in only 140 pages of outlining how to validate people you are communicating with. There are lots of examples to demonstrate his simple Four-Step Method, and he explains the principles in a very plain and not-snobbish way.
This book aims to help you improve your relationships with others, be it a family member, a coworker, a romantic partner, or even a stranger, through communication that is empathetic and honest; to have conversations where people feel heard and not judged, and that allow you to help others in the way that they need. It will even help you navigate conflict with others by allowing both parties to be acknowledged and getting closer to the root cause of the conflict.
Sometimes I don't do the best job of responding to my loved ones in the most validating way, but I had no idea how to go about changing that. It's the worst feeling when someone tells you they feel like they aren't being understood when they confide in you. This book gave me so many pointers and guidelines to help me improve that aspect of my communication. Validation was that "certain something" that I was lacking in interactions but couldn't verbally pinpoint. I feel more confident that I'll be better able to support my loved ones, and I hope that I can practice applying these principles to my interactions and become a more trustworthy and supportive person.
I think everyone would benefit from reading this, and definitely recommend it if you're looking for a self-help book to improve your communication skills/relationships!
I think that I'm a good listener, but there is a big difference between listening and understanding, and VALIDATING. That's the key, and this book does an excellent job in only 140 pages of outlining how to validate people you are communicating with. There are lots of examples to demonstrate his simple Four-Step Method, and he explains the principles in a very plain and not-snobbish way.
This book aims to help you improve your relationships with others, be it a family member, a coworker, a romantic partner, or even a stranger, through communication that is empathetic and honest; to have conversations where people feel heard and not judged, and that allow you to help others in the way that they need. It will even help you navigate conflict with others by allowing both parties to be acknowledged and getting closer to the root cause of the conflict.
Sometimes I don't do the best job of responding to my loved ones in the most validating way, but I had no idea how to go about changing that. It's the worst feeling when someone tells you they feel like they aren't being understood when they confide in you. This book gave me so many pointers and guidelines to help me improve that aspect of my communication. Validation was that "certain something" that I was lacking in interactions but couldn't verbally pinpoint. I feel more confident that I'll be better able to support my loved ones, and I hope that I can practice applying these principles to my interactions and become a more trustworthy and supportive person.
I think everyone would benefit from reading this, and definitely recommend it if you're looking for a self-help book to improve your communication skills/relationships!