Take a photo of a barcode or cover
aperson 's review for:
Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility
by Foster Cline, Jim Fay
So I'm torn. I enjoyed a lot of the basic premises in this book, but I could not get past the "because this is what god wants you to do" and "these techniques are pretty much flawless even though we say they won't apply to every situation, we still think they will" attitudes going on. Some of what they said seemed effective and I could definitely see some of their techniques working in my situation, but where was the science? All I heard was purely anecdotal with convenient little stories turning out EXACTLY how they said they would.
It's a self-help book and a parenting one no less so my standards can't be super high, but I was kind of hoping they'd surprise me and be a little different. That being said, I did enjoy the information they shared about helping children be independent. Granted, I already had that mindset given that I was raised in an environment where that was promoted, so I had more than a bit of confirmation bias going on.
Will encouraging your children to make their own choices and deal with the consequences make them more independent? I don't know, but it sounds plausible to me and it aligns with my already established values, so I'll give it a try.
Should you read it? Sure, why not. If you feel you need help with your parenting skills, it might help and as long as you don't take it to extremes, I don't think it will hurt.
Note to the authors:
I get that your Christian and you really want to relate to others with Christian beliefs, but when it comes to this subject matter, a secular approach would be more widely received and seems much more appropriate. Even us non-Christians share similar "family morals" and don't like them to be advertised as Christian-only beliefs.
It's a self-help book and a parenting one no less so my standards can't be super high, but I was kind of hoping they'd surprise me and be a little different. That being said, I did enjoy the information they shared about helping children be independent. Granted, I already had that mindset given that I was raised in an environment where that was promoted, so I had more than a bit of confirmation bias going on.
Will encouraging your children to make their own choices and deal with the consequences make them more independent? I don't know, but it sounds plausible to me and it aligns with my already established values, so I'll give it a try.
Should you read it? Sure, why not. If you feel you need help with your parenting skills, it might help and as long as you don't take it to extremes, I don't think it will hurt.
Note to the authors:
I get that your Christian and you really want to relate to others with Christian beliefs, but when it comes to this subject matter, a secular approach would be more widely received and seems much more appropriate. Even us non-Christians share similar "family morals" and don't like them to be advertised as Christian-only beliefs.