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Introducing: Emotional Intelligence: A Practical Guide
by David Walton
DID NOT FINISH
Did not finish.
So immediately this book annoyed me. The very first chapter has a self-assess quiz on emotional intelligence, but I think that the quiz is flawed and somewhat missing the point. Each question has an obviously "good" answer, an obviously "bad" answer, and two answers that are somewhere in between, but the problem is that even though I can see that one answer might be the most helpful for the subject (like going to HR and making a long-term plan for a co-workers career development or allowing a coworker to take credit for my work), it gives zero motivation for the actions taken and many of them are far overstepping what I think a reasonable person would be willing to do.
Sure, making that plan with HR might be the most helpful thing for my co-worker, but why would I commit my own time, energy, and resources to do something like that for an acquaintance, especially when they haven't asked for my advice or help? I'm not their supervisor, it's not a part of my job to do anything like that, and isn't it a little wild to assume they wouldn't find this intrusive or insulting in any way?
Then the quiz suggests that being willing to let a coworker take credit for your work and avoiding a confrontation makes you more emotionally intelligent than dealing with the situation any other way. I don't think being unwilling to make selfless commitments or allow others to take advantage of you means you're less emotionally intelligent, nor do I think that being emotionally intelligent means being charitable to the point of self detriment, but that's how this introductory test will score you.
The rest of the book appears to consist of more definitions, examples, and self-assess quizzes that I'm pretty confident in saying won't offer any more depth or realism than the first, so I'm out.
So immediately this book annoyed me. The very first chapter has a self-assess quiz on emotional intelligence, but I think that the quiz is flawed and somewhat missing the point. Each question has an obviously "good" answer, an obviously "bad" answer, and two answers that are somewhere in between, but the problem is that even though I can see that one answer might be the most helpful for the subject (like going to HR and making a long-term plan for a co-workers career development or allowing a coworker to take credit for my work), it gives zero motivation for the actions taken and many of them are far overstepping what I think a reasonable person would be willing to do.
Sure, making that plan with HR might be the most helpful thing for my co-worker, but why would I commit my own time, energy, and resources to do something like that for an acquaintance, especially when they haven't asked for my advice or help? I'm not their supervisor, it's not a part of my job to do anything like that, and isn't it a little wild to assume they wouldn't find this intrusive or insulting in any way?
Then the quiz suggests that being willing to let a coworker take credit for your work and avoiding a confrontation makes you more emotionally intelligent than dealing with the situation any other way. I don't think being unwilling to make selfless commitments or allow others to take advantage of you means you're less emotionally intelligent, nor do I think that being emotionally intelligent means being charitable to the point of self detriment, but that's how this introductory test will score you.
The rest of the book appears to consist of more definitions, examples, and self-assess quizzes that I'm pretty confident in saying won't offer any more depth or realism than the first, so I'm out.