A review by _darbi_
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.75

fabulous introduction to attachment theory and how it affects relationships with ourselves and others, later applications specific to polyamory. (i will say, i have heard from others that this book can feel a bit more geared towards newbies and definitions of attachment styles — so for me, it was a perfect foundation!)

non-fiction books grounded in psychology always take me a bit to chew on and prioritize. however, every time i picked up this book over a period of a couple months, the material felt immediately relevant with accessible questions for introspection. i think that all people and relationships could benefit from the HEARTS framework. 

i have so many pages tabbed and passages underlined, this book is definitely staying in my toolkit as i continue to create attachment-based relationships and practice self-compassion <3