A review by jcinf
Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

inspiring reflective slow-paced

4.5

For nonfiction, I really enjoyed this. I’m not a nonfiction girly, so it did take me a little while to get through. 

But the narrator (I believe the author narrated) was really engaging. She had a great tone. Fun when it was time to be fun and serious when necessary, too. 

SA (s*exual ass*ult) trigger warning. But those parts were super well written. I appreciated how she didn’t linger on those parts too long. It felt just enough to inform without being triggering. 

My main complaint is that it felt redundant at times. Tho I can understand that she may have been redundant bc the whole point of the book is to shift narratives surrounding AFAB/women/femme people’s sex lives. And it’s hard to shift narratives rooted is misogyny with just a few sentences. 

Main topics I loved:
• dropping the shame around sex
• normalizing a diversity labias 
• understanding your style of desire — spontaneous or responsive 
• changing your expectations of yourself during sex

Highly recommend to anyone like me, who gets in their head during sex sometimes. 

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