A review by jessdekkerreads
Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? by Jeanette Winterson

5.0

๐˜ˆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ๐˜ด ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ. ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ, ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ง๐˜ต๐˜ด. ๐˜ˆ๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐˜ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ๐˜ด ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ง๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ. ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ. ๐˜ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ.

In this memoir Winterson reflects on her youth, growing up in a Pentecostal household with adoptive parents, how their treatment shaped who she was, who she became, how she came to be a writer, and how books freed her. Her early years spent with an adoptive mother, (whom she refers to as Mrs. Winterson), who would often remind her that โ€œ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜‹๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ญ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฃโ€, a woman who would lock her out of the house in the cold, a woman who was unaccepting of her daughterโ€™s love and desire for women. โ€“ And when you hit that page, when you learn why the memoir is titled Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? โ€“ itโ€™ll have you holding the book close to your heart. โ€“ Jeanette recounts her pursuit for the truth, of who she was, who she came from, and why she was given up. 

I stumbled on this memoir blindly, feeling lost when I finished one book, and found myself back in my hometown, without a book in hand, immediately browsing, searching Libby for an ebook to keep me company through the rest of my stay, exploring all the queer author recommendations, and suddenly, Winterson appeared.

Staying with my mother-in-law at the time I started this book was pure kismet. This is a woman whom I previously helped search extensively for any clues we could find into her own past, translating German documents, scouring online archives, to find any information we could about her biological parents, which ultimately led to her finding and meeting her biological father. As I read passages from Wintersonโ€™s memoir, I began highlighting, stopping, and relaying pieces of the text to my mother-in-law, who felt such a connection to Wintersonโ€™s words: โ€œ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ด ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ง๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ. ๐˜๐˜ตโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ.โ€

This memoir has quickly become a favorite memoir of all time for me, one I wonโ€™t soon forget. And now Iโ€™m on a journey to read anything and everything Winterson has ever written, starting first with Written on the Body.