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Not bad. Parts of it did seem to be redundant with the author's other books, which was mildly annoying. But there are still important principles here and, especially near the end, some practical advice.
The author talks about shame: we ALL feel it. It's different from guilt. You feel guilty when you've done something wrong. You feel shame when you feel that you are wrong, that you aren't good enough. I laughed when it got to the part about children repeating the lessons of their parents, saying things like "I may have made a mess, but I am not a mess!" or "She's not a bad dog! She's a good dog that made bad choices!"
The author talks about the differences in how men and women tend to feel and deal with shame, due to the cultural expectations each of us had. She briefly mentions a few coping techniques as an aside, but this book is - unfortunately - more about her observations of the science of shame, rather than a how-to book about living a better life overcoming shame.
The author talks about shame: we ALL feel it. It's different from guilt. You feel guilty when you've done something wrong. You feel shame when you feel that you are wrong, that you aren't good enough. I laughed when it got to the part about children repeating the lessons of their parents, saying things like "I may have made a mess, but I am not a mess!" or "She's not a bad dog! She's a good dog that made bad choices!"
The author talks about the differences in how men and women tend to feel and deal with shame, due to the cultural expectations each of us had. She briefly mentions a few coping techniques as an aside, but this book is - unfortunately - more about her observations of the science of shame, rather than a how-to book about living a better life overcoming shame.