A review by lottiegasp
Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft

challenging emotional informative sad slow-paced

4.75

This book gives insight into the behaviours and thinking of angry, controlling and abusive men. Namely that they have a sense of entitlement and disrespect for their partner and children, and that domestic abuse is not about losing control, or a consequence of mental health issues, substance abuse or trauma. It provides guidance for victims of domestic abuse in understanding their partner, keeping themselves and their children safe, leaving their partner if they want to, and noticing true signs of change. I highly recommend it to anybody to help them become better at understanding abuse, supporting victims and survivors, and working towards a society that does not codify abuse.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Violence, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Murder, and Domestic abuse

Moderate: Sexual assault, Child abuse, Drug use, and Alcoholism

Minor: Ableism

This book details domestic abuse, including emotional and physical violence. There are certain sections that discuss child abuse, substance abuse. The author occasionally uses ableist language (e.g. calling abusers' behaviour crazy or insane, despite asserting that abuse is not a mental health problem)