A review by littleredmacks
Attached: The New Science of Finding - and Keeping - Love by Rachel S.F. Heller, Amir Levine

informative fast-paced

2.0

I felt the portrayal of avoidant and anxious attachment styles was so extreme at times that it was off-putting (even more so with the avoidant attachment). As someone with an anxious-avoidant attachment myself, this stood out even more. The author essentially implied that avoidants weren’t suited for relationships because of their attachment style. They also strongly emphasized that avoidant and anxious attachments together were a major "no-go," which I completely disagree with. While it’s our own responsibility to work on healing our attachment style, we’re so much more complex than just that one piece of ourselves. If we’re willing to put in the effort, our attachment style doesn’t dictate the entire relationship.

And don’t even get me started on the idea of codependency being a myth and their take on boundaries.

That said, there were some interesting perspectives on protest behaviors, which I found helpful, and the relationship inventory was a cool concept. Still, overall, I don’t think the positives in this book outweigh the negatives.