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A review by ulknehs
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
informative
reflective
medium-paced
3.5
3.5 stars overall.
The first part is a great and accessible overview of attachment theory and the impact of trauma; I'd give part one 4 stars.
Part two is a good discussion of consensual non-monogamy and makes an argument for the importance of an attachment lens on CNM. I learnt some things despite being involved and interested in non-monogamy for many years.
Part three is where the book fell slightly short for me. It is a self-help/how-to approach to developing secure attachment in relationships (monogamous or otherwise). It was helpful and interesting, but undermined by its individualistic perspective.
The first part is a great and accessible overview of attachment theory and the impact of trauma; I'd give part one 4 stars.
Part two is a good discussion of consensual non-monogamy and makes an argument for the importance of an attachment lens on CNM. I learnt some things despite being involved and interested in non-monogamy for many years.
Part three is where the book fell slightly short for me. It is a self-help/how-to approach to developing secure attachment in relationships (monogamous or otherwise). It was helpful and interesting, but undermined by its individualistic perspective.
Content Warnings
Minor: Infidelity