A review by golem
Nice Racism : How Progressive White People Perpetuate Racial Harm by Robin DiAngelo

There were some really, really helpful tips in here about how not to be so annoying and exhausting to your BIPOC, especially Black, colleagues and friends--although a) these are all things I have read in books by BIPOC people and b) from all the personal anecdotes, it is obvious that the author is one of those people who annoys and exhausts friends and colleagues. 
Danzy Senna's Atlantic review of this book was everything.