Meh, not really sure how to rate this one. I realized (when trying to figure out what wasn't jiving with me) that I enjoy parenting books that are researched based. This book is more the authors' opinions/techniques that they have employed with their kids, but none of it is grounded in any kind of research. Some of it was outright bizarre and I had to read one section to my kids because it was so funny/odd to me. There were definitely a few parts that I liked, giving kids choices, empathizing with them when they are upset, but all in all it's not one I would really recommend to friends. Especially when there are some really fabulous parenting books out there. Glad it was a library read.