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A review by lilyya
I'm Afraid of Men by Vivek Shraya
5.0
All the stars.
If you haven’t read this book yet WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
While reading it, I was recalling a conversation I had with Ingrid, a few weeks ago, about "how it’s never easy to be a woman even nowadays and in any society" We share distinct cultures even different religions, live in literally two ends of the world but yet go through the same daily-struggles and that, for just being ✨women. ✨
The author narrated her day-to-day altercations with men and stories that impacted her throughout her life before and after coming out as a queer trans woman. Her quotidian fights with her sexuality and being a migrant woman.
I honestly tried to write this review several times and couldn’t voice perfectly how much this impacted me. I’m just going to put here some of the pertinent parts I highlighted.❤️
Before I drop all my favorites quotes. I wanted to denounce some transphobic reviews from people—women— claiming being feminist but yet downplaying what the author went through because she has some privilege as initially, being "a man". While Aliki and I wanted to go fight in the comments
"I’M AFRAID OF MEN not because of any singular encounter with a man. I’m afraid of men because of the cumulative damage caused by the everyday experiences I’ve recounted here, and by those untold, and by those I continue to face."
If you haven’t read this book yet WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
Why is my humanity only seen or cared about when I share the ways in which I have been victimized and violated?"
While reading it, I was recalling a conversation I had with Ingrid, a few weeks ago, about "how it’s never easy to be a woman even nowadays and in any society" We share distinct cultures even different religions, live in literally two ends of the world but yet go through the same daily-struggles and that, for just being ✨women. ✨
" I have come to realize that the ugly common thread linking my experiences with men is misogyny."
The author narrated her day-to-day altercations with men and stories that impacted her throughout her life before and after coming out as a queer trans woman. Her quotidian fights with her sexuality and being a migrant woman.
" I’m afraid that the most prevalent response these stories will elicit is pity. Even worse, I’m afraid of the necessity of eliciting pity in order to generate concern or to galvanize change"
I honestly tried to write this review several times and couldn’t voice perfectly how much this impacted me. I’m just going to put here some of the pertinent parts I highlighted.❤️
"I’m afraid of women who, when I share my experiences of being trans, try to console me by announcing “welcome to being a woman,” refusing to recognize the ways in which our experiences fundamentally differ."
Before I drop all my favorites quotes. I wanted to denounce some transphobic reviews from people—women— claiming being feminist but yet downplaying what the author went through because she has some privilege as initially, being "a man". While Aliki and I wanted to go fight in the comments