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A review by trinityb2021
Say You'll Remember Me by Abby Jimenez
4.0
4 ⭐️
There are two parts of this book. The romance and the Alzheimers. I think the romance was gorgeous. On par, with Part of Your World’s romance. It is emotional and beautiful. It definitely qualities as insta-love which would normally not be my thing but Abby Jimenez is an amazing author and she makes it work.
This book is funny and silly and times. I love that Abby is chronically online and her references always make me laugh. She writes like she's 15 years younger than she is and that’s iconic.
The Alzheimers side of the story made me kind of uncomfortable. At first I thought it was just because it hit too close to home. I've been surrounded by this disease my whole life so seeing it in a book like this was a little traumatizing. But my biggest gripe was how Samantha and her family handled their mother’s care.
*Minor Spoilers*
By the middle of this book she 100% needs to be in a memory care unit. Putting locks and alarms on doors, throwing glass dishes around the room, injuring people, head butting people, this is when care needs to be transferred to professionals. I was so mad that the whole family thought putting their mom in a memory care unit was tantamount to torture. It would’ve been better for her! She would’ve been safe and not wandering around the town at night barefoot. Or slipping in the shower and injuring her husband. Or head butting her daughter. Multiple times they say that “she wouldn’t want us to suffer” and then THEY CONTINUE TO SUFFER.
I’ve seen people deteriorate due to Alzheimer's and they need full time care. It makes me so sad that this family is still, even at the end of this book, killing themselves and hindering their lives to accommodate their sick mother. Samantha even turns down a job she really wants, that pays well, and has good benefits, so she can be a full-time caregiver. That isn’t right. Care facilities exist for a reason. They aren’t torture. If you do your research and find a good one, they are better than everyone bending over backwards and ruining their lives to take care of your loved ones.
I feel very strongly about this and am disappointed that Abby didn’t explore the nuances of care facilities and seemed to write them off immediately. It made me not like this book nearly as much as a I wanted to.
There are two parts of this book. The romance and the Alzheimers. I think the romance was gorgeous. On par, with Part of Your World’s romance. It is emotional and beautiful. It definitely qualities as insta-love which would normally not be my thing but Abby Jimenez is an amazing author and she makes it work.
This book is funny and silly and times. I love that Abby is chronically online and her references always make me laugh. She writes like she's 15 years younger than she is and that’s iconic.
The Alzheimers side of the story made me kind of uncomfortable. At first I thought it was just because it hit too close to home. I've been surrounded by this disease my whole life so seeing it in a book like this was a little traumatizing. But my biggest gripe was how Samantha and her family handled their mother’s care.
*Minor Spoilers*
By the middle of this book she 100% needs to be in a memory care unit. Putting locks and alarms on doors, throwing glass dishes around the room, injuring people, head butting people, this is when care needs to be transferred to professionals. I was so mad that the whole family thought putting their mom in a memory care unit was tantamount to torture. It would’ve been better for her! She would’ve been safe and not wandering around the town at night barefoot. Or slipping in the shower and injuring her husband. Or head butting her daughter. Multiple times they say that “she wouldn’t want us to suffer” and then THEY CONTINUE TO SUFFER.
I’ve seen people deteriorate due to Alzheimer's and they need full time care. It makes me so sad that this family is still, even at the end of this book, killing themselves and hindering their lives to accommodate their sick mother. Samantha even turns down a job she really wants, that pays well, and has good benefits, so she can be a full-time caregiver. That isn’t right. Care facilities exist for a reason. They aren’t torture. If you do your research and find a good one, they are better than everyone bending over backwards and ruining their lives to take care of your loved ones.
I feel very strongly about this and am disappointed that Abby didn’t explore the nuances of care facilities and seemed to write them off immediately. It made me not like this book nearly as much as a I wanted to.