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My Best Friend's Honeymoon
by Meryl Wilsner
DID NOT FINISH: 36%
I was excited about this book cause I enjoyed her other books immensely, but this one is coloring her other books in an awful light now.
The two white and queer English speaking FMCs go to an inclusive resort in a Spanish speaking Caribbean country where they get served and catered to by non white people. It already felt icky as they get brought by boat to their cabin over the water and told they can have anything brought to them. Then they walked in on two white queer people having sex in a public waterfall area. I just…imagine if it was two straight people having public sex around a beautiful waterfall in another county that is still experiencing colonization? You know beautiful areas that should be the province of locals are kept from locals and used for wealthy white people at resorts all the time? Making it queer doesn’t make it right or endearing. And then there was the dinner scene.
The server used ‘ladies’ when asking how they anre and one of the MCs LECTURED them about using inclusive language. Are you fucking serious?!!!!! No no no no. You don’t lecture literal servers about this. It is not their job or requirement to know your preferred pronouns. And that’s how I feel about doing that in an English speaking country. Doing that to a server whose first language isn’t English. Are you serious?!!! And I want to be clear, I care about preferred pronouns. Thats something to make sure your boss respects, that your friends and family respect, your doctors. And I get it, it’s way easier to lecture someone who’s job it is to serve you then your own friends and family, but lecturing a server is so disgustingly entitled. It was described like it was empowerment, making this server afraid to speak and endangering their job.
I just… I’m disgusted. I don’t know if the author just has a stereotype about how gender queer people expect their allies to behave (I know a lot of gender queer people who would never!!) or if they believe this is an appropriate way to behave and know some queer people who do. But it reeks of white privileged and entitlement and colonization. -9/4/25
The two white and queer English speaking FMCs go to an inclusive resort in a Spanish speaking Caribbean country where they get served and catered to by non white people. It already felt icky as they get brought by boat to their cabin over the water and told they can have anything brought to them. Then they walked in on two white queer people having sex in a public waterfall area. I just…imagine if it was two straight people having public sex around a beautiful waterfall in another county that is still experiencing colonization? You know beautiful areas that should be the province of locals are kept from locals and used for wealthy white people at resorts all the time? Making it queer doesn’t make it right or endearing. And then there was the dinner scene.
The server used ‘ladies’ when asking how they anre and one of the MCs LECTURED them about using inclusive language. Are you fucking serious?!!!!! No no no no. You don’t lecture literal servers about this. It is not their job or requirement to know your preferred pronouns. And that’s how I feel about doing that in an English speaking country. Doing that to a server whose first language isn’t English. Are you serious?!!! And I want to be clear, I care about preferred pronouns. Thats something to make sure your boss respects, that your friends and family respect, your doctors. And I get it, it’s way easier to lecture someone who’s job it is to serve you then your own friends and family, but lecturing a server is so disgustingly entitled. It was described like it was empowerment, making this server afraid to speak and endangering their job.
I just… I’m disgusted. I don’t know if the author just has a stereotype about how gender queer people expect their allies to behave (I know a lot of gender queer people who would never!!) or if they believe this is an appropriate way to behave and know some queer people who do. But it reeks of white privileged and entitlement and colonization. -9/4/25
Content Warnings
Graphic: Racism, Colonisation