A review by joshlynjavier
Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood by Satya Doyle Byock

informative inspiring relaxing medium-paced

4.25

 1.  separate, listen, build, integrate

“but i wasn’t happy. beyond financial survival, i was no closer to understanding ‘the point’ of what i was doing, nor did i feel like i was living a life destined for me”

“...may feel that they have a right to ‘something better than this’ without being able to define the ‘something’”

“true psychological adulthood is a kind of maturity that is about balance, a dynamic play”

this book was recommended to me by my therapist and i really enjoyed it!

i’ve read books like “defining decade” and other self help books for young people in their 20s and found this to be much more relevant, empathetic, and understanding of the mindset that most of us are in as we begin our lives in this quarter-life time, often skipped over by media or largely misunderstood. 

as we step into adulthood under capitalism, the balance and search for both meaning and stability defines our relationships with others and perceptions of our selves and identity. 

a plane can’t fly without having a runway to be grounded first. 

the characterization of some of the “patients” felt a bit overdone and trope - heavy, but the message was strong regardless and gave me a lot to think and reflect about, while also providing tangible steps to help me find more balance and clarity.