A review by amber_lea84
Against Equality: Queer Critiques of Gay Marriage by Deeg, Eric A. Stanley, Martha Jane Kaufman, Katie Miles, John D'Emilio, Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore, Dean Spade, Kate Raphael, Kate Bornstein, Yasmin Nair, Craig Willse, Ryan Conrad, Kenyon Farrow

3.0

I feel like the writers in this book misunderstand a lot. There's this common "either/or" argument running throughout all these essays that if you're for gay marriage you're against everything else worth fighting for...and therefore you're a classist, racist, transphobic a-hole. I think you can be for gay marriage and still give a shit about poor people and poly people and people of color and genderqueers and everyone else.

And let me clarify that I have no intention to ever get married and I have many issues with the institution of marriage, but I think gay marriage is a good thing because it will help SOME people for NOW which is better than helping nobody until you can help everybody.

This was tacked onto the end of the last essay as an afterthought a few years after the original essay was written, and I thought it was perfect: "We know that for many people, marriage, and the benefits it can give, can be a form of survival. We believe that people can experience an immediate need for the benefits marriage would provide and a simultaneous hope for more expansive solutions."

That right there is enough reason to not fight against gay marriage.